Gootman, Marilyn E. When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving and Healing.

GOOTMAN, Marilyn E. When a friend dies; a book for teens about grieving & healing. Rev. & updated ed. Free Spirit. 118p. bibliog. index, c2005. 1-57542-170-4. $9.95. JSA*

Marilyn Gootman, the founder of an educational consulting company, is the author of other books and articles about parenting. In the introduction to this book, she explains that part of her reason for writing it was due to the death of one of her daughter's friends. At that time, she was unable to find an adequate book to help her daughter deal with her grief. In this revised and updated edition of the 1994 publication, she aims to bring comfort and answers to other grieving adolescents.

Short chapters with questions and answers tell about the many types of emotions teens may experience after losing a friend to death. Quotes from well-known figures are interspersed with thoughts for reflection. There is also a helpful resource section listing organizations to contact for further assistance, followed by a list of books about grief for both parents and teens.

Gootman speaks in clear, reassuring language to teens. She does not talk down to them, and validates that they may be experiencing many confusing feelings after such a terrible loss. She also suggests contacting a therapist if necessary, and discusses how to talk to parents. Even though this book is primarily for teens, the adults in their lives will also find it helpful. This title is highly recommended for all public and school library collections. Olivia Durant, Libn., Webster PL, Webster, NY