GL guys Q&A.

I really like my BF, but he's making all these plans--like when we will get married and how many kids we'll have. I hate it! Can I nicely tell him to stop, or do I have to break up?

DAVE He likes to look ahead, huh? Maybe you should go out with your friends next Friday while your BF figures out his retirement plan. Try responding the exact opposite of how he probably anticipates. If he wants city living, tell him you want to be in the Outback. No matter how he interprets this--as the remote region of Australia, a steakhouse chain or an all-terrain Subaru--perhaps he'll stop making long-range plans with you.

BILL Tell your BF it would be nice to have your driver's license before you start making wedding plans. Ask him his goals for the next few years (graduating high school, attending college). Point out that you're both likely to change and grow during that time. If he really cares about you, he'll slow the pace.

When a guy says you're pretty and perfect and is really nice to you, does he really mean it or is it just a ploy to get you?

BILL A few guys play the flattery game really well, but most guys are terrible at it. If a guy gets up the nerve to give you props, you can be fairly sure he means it. Compare notes with other girls. If he feeds them the same lines he feeds you, he's a poseur and isn't worth your time.

DAVE If a guy tells you you're perfect, run with it. He's letting you know that, in his mind, there's nothing about you he'd change. That's quite a compliment.

I love to hang with guys, but I don't know how to flirt. Loving sports and being kind of a tomboy doesn't help. I get labeled as "just a friend." Help!

BILL You're being treated like "one of the guys," which can be cool but, obviously, you want more. So show them what you've got. At the next school dance, look like a million bucks.

DAVE Invite your crush to something not so guy-ish, perhaps a sappy date movie. He'll see your softer side, and then you two can go to football games as something more than friends.

My boyfriend has take up smoking. I don't want him to think I'm acting like his mom, but it's sooo gross.

DAVE In addition to "sooo gross," smoking is illegal under 18 and unhealthy at any age. Let your guy know he quits smoking or you'll quit him.

BILL Some city laws state smokers must remain a certain distance from public buildings. Tell your BF you have your own law: six feet between you two as long as he smokes. A smart idea for your health (secondhand smoke kills!) and a good incentive to get him to stop.