Friend blend: the do's and don'ts of mixing your old crew with the new....Got two groups of gal pals--one from summer camp, the other from school? Perhaps you're in private school this year but wouldn't dream of parting with your public school pals. Or maybe you moved and want to mix it up with girls from the new 'hood and the old. We show you how to successfully blend budding budding, type of grafting in which a plant bud is inserted under the bark of the stock (usually not more than a year old). It is best done when the bark will peel easily and the buds are mature, as in spring, late summer, or early autumn. relationships with your lifelong friendships.... BABY STEPS Instead of trying to get all the girls together at once, introduce one or two at a time to each group. Think about which of your new buds is the most outgoing and wouldn't be intimidated in·tim·i·date tr.v. in·tim·i·dat·ed, in·tim·i·dat·ing, in·tim·i·dates 1. To make timid; fill with fear. 2. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats. by a new group. Then invite her along next time you hit the mall with the old gang. Know one of your old buds would rub the new girls the wrong way? Bring her around later when everyone's comfortable with each other. MISS MATCH Make a mental list of each girl's traits, and match them up accordingly. You should be able to come up with at least two girls (one old and one new) who might be perfect as friends! Of course, this can be tricky Adrian Thaws (born January 27, 1968), better known as Tricky, is an English rapper and musician important in the trip hop and British music scene (despite loathing the "trip hop" tag). He is noted for a whispering lyrical style that is half-rapped, half-sung. . Jen and Brit brit also britt n. 1. The young of herring and similar fish. 2. Minute marine organisms, such as crustaceans of the genus Calanus, that are a major source of food for right whales. could both be into punk punk Aggressive form of rock music that coalesced into an international (though predominantly Anglo-American) movement in 1975–80. Originating in the countercultural rock of artists such as the Velvet Underground and Iggy (Pop) and the Stooges, punk rock evolved in music, but maybe Brit's a reclusive re·clu·sive adj. 1. Seeking or preferring seclusion or isolation. 2. Providing seclusion: a reclusive hut. basement drummer while Jen likes to strum in the spotlight--major personality clash. Or perfect complement? Sometimes, you just have to wait and see. SQUARE PEGS Square Pegs was a CBS comedy television series that aired during the 1982-83 season. The series followed Patty Greene (Sarah Jessica Parker) and Lauren Hutchinson (Amy Linker), two awkward teenage girls desperate to fit in at Weemawee High School. Be patient, and let the awkwardness wear off before determining whether or not a match is successful. Whatever you do, don't try to force a friendship. If a new and old friend don't hit it off, let it be. You can't expect people to gel if they're just not feelin' it. NO SURPRISES Be sure neither side is opposed to meeting a new bud. Before bringing someone around, mention to the new and old crews how cool it would be if they met. Showing up with an outsider--unannounced--might come off like a sneak attack. GET IT TOGETHER Once you've gotten a few friends from each group to click, plan something everyone will enjoy. Just never forget the most important rules of friendship: Always honor your old buds, act loyally, and treat all your friends with respect. Don't invite your new gang to your old crew's annual end-of-summer outdoor bash. What to do instead? Who doesn't love no-appointment-necessary group manicures! |
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