Family feud.

I am writing in regard to the From the Editors column in the October 10 issue ["Coming Out and Talking Trash"]. I certainly agree with your view that it is wrong for anyone to judge when, how, or if someone else comes out. I do take issue with your statement "If Grammy doesn't like queers, you may have to give up her deviled eggs, but it's doubtful family members will trash you online as a 'retard' who is 'making us look bad.'" I find it insulting that you would minimize the difficulty and risks that many LGBT people face in coming out to their families. You seem to imply that losing a career that depends on wide public adoration is more important than possibly losing family relationships. I do agree that when people in the public eye come out it can have a positive impact for all of us. I would argue, however, that if more "ordinary" people were able to come out to their friends, families, coworkers, and communities, this would have the greatest impact of all. NICK GAGLIO Bristol, R.I.