Fab up your friendship! Are friendship flubs flinging your pack off track? Here's how to help--now![ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] You love your buds, but sometimes friends just make you go UGH! From the never punctual pal to the always-forgetful friend, we've all got girls with slightly heinous habits. The good news? These flaws are totally fixable. Here's how to make all your bud bonds rock solid. FRIEND FLUB #1 She always arrives at least a half-hour late. WHY DON'T YOU ... help her yet on the timely track. If your crew's meeting for dinner at 6:30, tell your girl to show at 6:15. Best-case scenario is she'll arrive on time--or even early--for once. But if she's still not there at 6:45, order without her. Once she realizes her friends won't be waiting around, she'll be more inclined to perfect her punctuality. FRIEND FLUB #2 She's got her 3y attached to her hand, and won't give it up--even for you. WHY DON'T YOU ... lessen that obsession with texting and tweeting by tipping her off. Next time her fingers start flyin', a simple joke like, "Hope there's not an emergency!" will give her a hint. Then, keep hang time special by suggesting everyone--including you!--stash away cells (though not too far, in case the 'rents call). When your girl sees that she didn't miss anything major during that hour she went phone-free, she'll stop thinking of it as a 24/7 accessory. FRIEND FLUB #3 She butts into your--and everyone else's--convos. WHY DON'T YOU ... give her confidence a kick? Most likely, your bud's a bit unsure of herself and inserting her unsolicited opinion makes her feel more important. One way to ix-nay her insecurity? Briny her into the loop before she forces her way in. The flattery you give your girl by asking for her thoughts on a subject will help her realize she doesn't need to commandeer every single conversation. FRIEND FLUB #4 She is way boy-crazy. They're all she talks about! WHY DON'T YOU ... remind her there's more to fife than guys. While it's great to dish about crushes (what are gal-pals for?), obsessing over anything can be unhealthy. When she can't stop talking about sophomore Chad's power to capture her heart, redirect the convo toward something you know she'll be into, like Stephanie Meyer's next novel. More to talk about means a stronger bond--and what could be better than that? FRIEND FLUB #5 She always forgets her wallet, leaving you to pay. WHY DON'T YOU ... slowly stop being her personal ATM. Your constant cash handouts may mean she's taking advantage of your generosity. Before you head to your lave spot, drop her a friendly reminder about having enough dough to cover the cost of the outing. And if you're sensing she doesn't have the funds? Have her over to your place for your mom's famous lasagna and a Wii marathon instead. Totally free--but just as fun. BFF DILEMMA My BFF invited me to a themed camp, and I don't have the heart to tell her I'm not interested [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Be honest. If she's your BFF, she should understand that you won't always like the same things. Suggest she ask another bud if she's interested. You know how excited she is about going and want her to have as much fun as possible. --Olivia K., 14 [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Tell her that even though camp sounds fun, that activity just isn't your thing right now. Ask her to try out a brand new hobby with you. Maybe you'll find something you can both enjoy together. --Sara C., 14 [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Just try it. Even though If might not sound very inviting to you, you might have fun, or at least realize you don't like that particular activity anymore. Either way, you'll learn something about yourself. --Thatcher B., 14 |
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