Ending the Mom wars: deja vu. Are you at odds with a parent over the same prob ... over again? Here's how to make peace, once and for all.

You're constantly clashing with parent over the same tired issue. Maybe she's set an outlandishly early curfew ... which you always seem to accidentally-on-purpose break ... which leads to an even earlier curfew. Or maybe Morn won't let you wear makeup, so you pile on the mascara at school--then get busted when you forget to wash it off.

Whatever the sitch, it's all about control. Mom wants what's best for you, so she micro-manages your moves, while you feel you're old enough to enjoy a little freedom. So how can you ever see eye to eye? It's a snap! Read on for a how-to countdown to power-struggle hassles.

THE CONFLICT COUNTDOWN

5 NO FAIR! Feeling stifled by "unfair" rules, like no phone after 9 p.m. on school nights or a way-early bedtime?

If you feel Morn isn't giving you a fair shake, ask yourself if she's laid down a rule that's truly cruel--and be honest! After all, you've gotta admit you'd easily set a world record for longest chat on a cordless if left on your own. But if you genuinely feel Morn is not giving you a fair shake, talk to her about it.

Don't play the blame game and be all, "You're the only mother who forces her daughter to miss Everwood!" Instead, negotiate some rope a little at a time. If Mona wants you in the sack at 9 p.m. sharp, see if she'll let you go 'til 10 for a week--if you can get up in the a.m., the change could be made permanent.

Or maybe ask if you could call your BFF for a brief after-dinner convo--and show you respect Mom's hales by setting a time to go off in precisely 15 minutes, at which point you'll hang up, pronto. It's all about compromise!

4 CENSORSHIP STINKS Mom is so freakishly old-fashioned that she listens to Nell Diamond. She doesn't let you watch cool shows like The O.C., so you have to pretend you saw last night's episode when your girls are talking about it. Ludacris is a no-go. You're not even allowed to catch a PG-13 movie.

So? Find a cool CD that doesn't contain wall-to-wall graphic lyrics--yep, they do exist--and play it for Mom. Bet she'll OK it. She simply doesn't want you filling your ears with icky stuff that's totally beneath you.

When it comes to TV and movies, ask Morn to watch something with you. Often, parents outlaw all PG-13 flicks, thinking every single one contains way objectionable stuff. A good place to start? Rent Uptown Girls on DVD and have a mom-daughter night in.

3 CLASHIN' OVER FASHION You want to wear a lab dress with spaghetti straps to the V-Day dance but Mona insists you're wearing a droopy plaid skirt and a lace-collared shirt covered with flowers. Aaarrrgghhh!

Hope to break an ongoing wardrobe tug-o'-war? First off, understand that very few morns go for bare Britney tanks and lower-than-low riders--and that's not such a bad thing. After all, that look is tarty and tired.

But if your conflict is along the lines of Morn wanting you to dress preppy but you love punk, try to meet somewhere in the middle. Maybe you could deck out more conservatively on school days, and don the combat boots and safety-pinned mini-kilt on weekends only.

Another solution: Shop with Morn to find items you both agree are OK. Who knows? You might find out your mom can totally get behind that amazing pair of black bell-bottoms!

2 BOY BATTLE: ZONE A common area of mom-daughter warfare is, no mystery, dating. Mom thinks you're too young to go our, restricts phone calls from guys and won't even let you go to boy-girl parties.

You want to get together with your crush; your mom wants to protect you from getting in over your head. So map out a clear game plan for hanging with boys in stages. Is it OK to go to your BFF's co-ed birthday bash, since her 'rents will be there every second? Mom will probably concede to that.

Next, Mom might let you go with a guy-girl group to Pizza Palace. Phone chats could follow. But don't stay out late chatting with Kevin from bio class, even once, because you'll prove to Morn you're not mature enough to handle the whole boy-girl thing.

1 PRIVACY PROBS Mom back-keys your PC to read your e-mails? Thinks nothing of rummaging through your bag, sneaking a peek at your diary or eavesdropping on phone chats? Is this not the worst?

When mom tries to nail you on the down-low, she may think she's nipping potential probs. Still, you feel rotten because she clearly doesn't trust you. Plus, everyone deserves some private space. You're right to feel kinda violated.

If you've given her absolutely no reason to question your integrity, speak up. Say, "Mom, I feel bad when you read my diary--those are thoughts I want to keep to myself. I'm not doing anything wrong, so why don't you trust me?"

Maybe she'll apologize on the spot. Maybe she'll tell you she's nervous because you're getting older. Whatever her reason, by talking honestly about how you feel, you show maturity. When you clear the air, not only do you solve a major prob--you two get closer than ever. And what's cooler than that?