Enabling Romance: A Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships for the Disabled.by Ken Kroll and Erica Levy Klein. New York New York, state, United States New York, Middle Atlantic state of the United States. It is bordered by Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and the Atlantic Ocean (E), New Jersey and Pennsylvania (S), Lakes Erie and Ontario and the Canadian province of : Harmony Books, 1992. 209 pages, $22.50. The authors of this readable book are a married couple; Ken Kroll has dystonia dystonia /dys·to·nia/ (-to´ne-ah) dyskinetic movements due to disordered tonicity of muscle.dyston´ic dystonia musculo´rum defor´mans , a neuromuscular neuromuscular /neu·ro·mus·cu·lar/ (-mus´ku-ler) pertaining to nerves and muscles, or to the relationship between them. neu·ro·mus·cu·lar adj. 1. disorder, and uses a wheelchair; his wife, Erica is nondisabled. The book is a useful and understandable guide to love and sexual relationships for people with disabilities and their partners. It should also be helpful for counselors, teachers, and other professionals, for the authors provide important insight into what it's like to be a social, romantic and sexual being who also has a disability. The book is based on the authors' own experience and the experiences of over seventy-five couples who responded to their questionnaires. Although it mainly addresses heterosexual couples, there is a great deal of material that applies to gay or lesbian couples as well. The need for sexual expression is not lost due to illness or accident, the authors say. Every person is a sexual being, and hardly anyone is too disabled to have some pleasure from his or her sexuality--with a partner if possible, or alone, if necessary. "It is up to each person to discover the kind of sexual expression that works for him or her and the best way to achieve it," they write. The initial chapters deal with the fears about disabilities that are ingrained in·grained adj. 1. Firmly established; deep-seated: ingrained prejudice; the ingrained habits of a lifetime. 2. in our culture. The authors provide practical advice about how to open up honest communications, how to begin a relationship or friendship, and how to deal with the problems of a "mixed relationship"--one that involves disabled and nondisabled partners. Subsequent chapters are about sexual variations and alternatives for couples and individuals with specific disabilities. The chapter on MS is brief. It contains straightforward accounts from two people with MS who found positive sexual expressions and positive self-expression. But it says that people with MS experience "only transient sexual difficulties." This is not always true. People with MS who have persistent or recurring re·cur intr.v. re·curred, re·cur·ring, re·curs 1. To happen, come up, or show up again or repeatedly. 2. To return to one's attention or memory. 3. To return in thought or discourse. problems can find helpful advice in this book, despite this error. Reviewed by Helen Crohn, CSW CSW Commission on the Status of Women CSW Christian Solidarity Worldwide CSW Clinical Social Worker CSW College of the Southwest (New Mexico) CSW Cambridge SoundWorks (audio manufacturer) , a clinical social worker and certified sex therapist in private practice in New York. Ms. Crohn is also director of Advanced Training Programs at the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services in New York City New York City: see New York, city. New York City City (pop., 2000: 8,008,278), southeastern New York, at the mouth of the Hudson River. The largest city in the U.S. . |
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