Dr Miriam: OUT OF TOUCH.Byline: Dr Miriam Stoppard
Dear Miriam MY childhood was very rigid and unaffectionate. The only touching I experienced was when my father slapped me for being naughty naugh·ty
adj. naugh·ti·er, naugh·ti·est
1. Behaving disobediently or mischievously: a naughty child.
2. Indecent; improper: a naughty wink. .
I got married at 19 and sex with my husband was about just being there and letting him make use of me.
I divorced him when I was 40 and realized I wanted more.
But I'm still scared of being touched and my instinct is to back off. Is there any hope
YOU can learn to enjoy touch if that's what you want. But you won't magically step outside your comfort zone.
Counselling or hypnosis hypnosis
State that resembles sleep but is induced by a person (the hypnotist) whose suggestions are readily accepted by the subject. The hypnotized individual seems to respond in an uncritical, automatic fashion, ignoring aspects of the environment (e.g. could help, or you might try massage at a health and beauty salon. You'll find it easier to relax your boundaries and get used to the idea touch can be enjoyable.
You have learned already that some men are not safe.
The joy that lies ahead of you is the discovery there are also men who are givers rather than takers, considerate con·sid·er·ate
1. Having or marked by regard for the needs or feelings of others. See Synonyms at thoughtful.
2. Characterized by careful thought; deliberate. rather than self-centred and protectors rather than abusers.