Disappearing act: you thought you two had a good thing going. But now your new BF is just ... gone.You two seemed destined des·tine tr.v. des·tined, des·tin·ing, des·tines 1. To determine beforehand; preordain: a foolish scheme destined to fail; a film destined to become a classic. 2. to be the class couple. Your new guy called every day last week to say "hey." Friday night, he invited you to his game. He even slammed baseballs at milk jugs to win you a stuffed SpongeBob at the fair on Saturday. But that was last week. This is now, and he's invisible. It's like he's been abducted abducted Distal angulation of an extremity away from the midline of the body in a transverse plane and away from a sagittal plane passing through the proximal aspect of the foot or part, or away from some other specified reference point by aliens--poof! He doesn't even show up on your buddy list A list of colleagues, workgroup members, friends, etc., that you might wish to communicate with via instant messaging. See instant messaging. anymore. Last you checked, there was no break-up conversation, no "see ya!" call, no note ... nada. And you're left wondering, "What the ...?" What makes a seen-tingly content BF suddenly tougher to find than Osama bin Laden Osama bin Laden: see bin Laden, Osama. ? As a guy who's vanished on more than one occasion, I might be able to clue you in on why your dude is MIA MIA n. A member of the armed services who is reported missing following a combat mission and whose status as to injury, capture, or death is unknown. [m(issing) i(n) a(ction). . HE DOESN'T KNOW HE'S INTO YOU You could be the sweetest thing this side of Mandy Moore, but he's simply Mr. Oblivious. Even though some guys think about girls 100 times a day, girlfriends can move to the back of a guy's mind very quickly. With all the diversions in the male arsenal (buds, sports, school, Return To Castle Wolfenstein Return to Castle Wolfenstein (PC) is a first person shooter computer game published by Activision and originally released on November 19, 2001. The single player game was developed by Gray Matter Interactive and Nerve Software developed its multiplayer mode. ), a guy rarely sits back and thinks, "Boy, I had a great time at the movies with Lori. I should call her right now and set something up for Saturday." What can I say? We guys have short attention spans. Your guy could be thinking about dialing your cell to check in ... just as his buddy stops by with a brand-new Birdhouse Hawk Falcon 4 skateboard and--quick as you can say "unattached!"--he's off to road-test that puppy at the park. Bottom line? This is a classic case of the cad who is not ready for the demands of official boyfriend-girlfriend status. HE'S TOO INTO YOU On the flip side Flip side In the context of general equities, opposite side to a proposition or position (buy, if sell is the proposition and vice versa). is the dude who is so into a girl that he overanalyzes his way right out of a girlfriend. Exceedingly rare, this breed of boy broods over every aspect of his love life: Did Erin really like me, or was she just trying to be nice? Should I call her three days after I saw her last, or should I wait a week? Such dilemmas occupy his mind, using up valuable brain cells normally reserved for figuring out who's going to kick butt in the X Games X Games Sports medicine The official Olympics of 'extreme sports' sponsored by ESPN, held annually during the summer. See Extreme sports. . And then ... his thoughts take a sudden U-turn. He comes to a realization that he's so pre-occupied with the girl thing that he could be missing out on some totally rad guy stuff: Is Erin taking too much time away from my hoops practice? There's no rhyme or reason sound or sense. See also: Rhyme to when this bizarre internal questioning will rear its ugly head. But once the over-thinking guy reaches the breaking point, he's so baffled that he doesn't know whether to say, "I like you!" or, "I'm so darned darned adj. Damned. Adj. 1. darned - expletives used informally as intensifiers; "he's a blasted idiot"; "it's a blamed shame"; "a blame cold winter"; "not a blessed dime"; "I'll be damned (or blessed or darned or confused--I gotta practice my jump shot." Guess what usually wins out. Hint: It's 10 feet tall--and not you. HE'S NOT AS INTO YOU AS YOU THINK My final explanation for why a guy who seemed all into you suddenly pulls a disappearing act? Brace yourself for the brutal truth.... He's decided you're just not for him, and he's too much of a coward to tell you so. While some guys are champs at laying it on the line, there's another type of guy who runs scared and hides. Why? Because he has ridiculous visions of you bawling your eyes out in front of him (which guys can't bear) or going all Swimfan on him. There's not much you can do about a guy who flat-out doesn't dig you. So my best advice is to just chalk him up as a history lesson and move on. But what's a girl to do when dealing with one of those other now-you-see-him/now-you-don't types? You could invest in a GPS satellite to track him, but that's a waste of time. It would also be a waste of time to sit around and wait for him to reappear. But if he does, then you can vanish and drive him nuts. |
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