Dear MIRIAM: Why is sister so moody?Byline: Dr Miriam Stoppard Dear Miriam MY older sister won't speak to me or our parents when she gets upset or angry. Sometimes I don't even know why she's upset and it can last ages. She didn't talk to me for days just because I forgot to pass on a phone message. Can you help me understand why she does this? I'm 17. WHEN an adult holds a grudge grudge tr.v. grudged, grudg·ing, grudg·es 1. To be reluctant to give or admit: even grudged the tuition money. 2. and attempts to punish another person by giving them the silent treatment, they're acting in a very childish child·ish adj. 1. Of, relating to, or suitable for a child or childhood: a high, childish voice; childish nightmares. 2. a. fashion. The best thing you can do is confront your sister's behaviour by being clear about how it makes you feel. An assertive as·ser·tive adj. Inclined to bold or confident assertion; aggressively self-assured. as·ser  tive·ly adv. attitude tells
her that you matter.
She may try to turn the tables and make you feel like you're the one with the problem. If that happens, resist the urge to apologise. Instead, stick to your guns and explain how much it hurts you when she gives you the cold shoulder. |
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