Dear MIRIAM: Our grave doubts..Byline: Dr MIRIAM STOPPARD Dear Miriam AFTER a long and happy marriage, my husband died six years ago. One of his friends, a widower, was a huge support and we fell in love. We're in our late 60s and getting married next month. This may sound morbid morbid /mor·bid/ (mor´bid) 1. pertaining to, affected with, or inducing disease; diseased. 2. unhealthy or unwholesome. 3. but we've already discussed what will happen when we die. I'll be buried bur·y tr.v. bur·ied, bur·y·ing, bur·ies 1. To place in the ground: bury a bone. 2. a. To place (a corpse) in a grave, a tomb, or the sea; inter. b. with my first husband and he with his late wife. Although my daughter likes my new partner, she's upset I will be giving up the family name and I wonder what name should be used on my headstone? THIS isn't morbid at all. It's best to think ahead to avoid any confusion in future. Why not make everyone happy and combine both surnames, along the lines of Janet Jones Janet-Marie Jones (born January 10 1961) is an American actress, dancer, and aerobics instructor. She is married to ice hockey icon Wayne Gretzky. Biography Entertainment career Jones was born in Bridgeton, Missouri. Smith? Although your daughter is upset you've chosen to adopt your new husband's last name, if you intend your last resting place to be with her dad, surely this must count for a lot? I don't believe you're being disloyal to your first husband and, instead of getting all fired up over a name, your daughter should be pleased you've been given this second chance of happiness. Stick to your guns. |
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