Dear MIRIAM: I yearn for spicy sex.

Byline: Dr MIRIAM STOPPARD

Dear Miriam MY sex life with my boyfriend is good but it's the same old routine pretty well every time.

I love him and we get on well but I used to do more adventurous stuff in bed with my ex-boyfriends - nothing too kinky, we just used sex toys and played games to spice things up.

But I don't want to screw things up by making him think I'm a slut.

How can I raise the subject without his thinking less of me?

AN important part of any relationship is communication.

Sometimes it's difficult for couples to start a conversation about sensitive issues but you mustn't feel bad just because you're keen to spice things up. Most of us have fantasy ideas about what great sex should be.

This is your boyfriend, someone you care about, and you have every right to make it as exciting and fulfilling as you want in bed.

A good way to bring up the subject is to use something you can both focus on. A book, magazine article or TV programme can be an easy way to get talking.