Dear MIRIAM: Dad's jibe cuts deep.

Byline: Dr MIRIAM STOPPARD

Dear Miriam I'M a 16-year-old girl living with my mum, dad and sister. Dad drinks a lot and he's abusive when he comes home, mainly to me and sometimes mum.

For most of my life, I could talk to my grandma if I had problems but she died recently. Dad says I shouldn't have burdened her and blames me for her death, so I've been cutting myself. I want to stop but I don't have the strength. What can I do?

SELF-harm is a way of dealing with very strong emotions. For some it gives the relief that crying may provide for the rest of us.

Please contact the National Self-Harm Network, You can email [e-mail] and visit their website www.nshn.co.uk. And let's be clear you are NOT responsible for your grandma's death. I feel so cross your dad is spitefully lashing out and blaming you. It is probably the drink talking, as alcohol can make people abusive.

If your mum can't protect you, is there another adult in your life who can? If not, call Childline on 0800 1111.

There's also a wonderful fellowship for children in your position, called Ala-teen and you can phone them on 020 7403 0888.