Dear Carol.Dear Carol, I've had a best guy friend since third grade. I asked him out last month, and he said, "I would just like it if we stayed really close friends." I like him so much, I just want to give him one kiss! If I could get that out of my system, my whole life would be better. My grades would go up, and I would stop daydreaming. How could I possibly give him just one kiss Just One Kiss is the forth episode in season 1 of the popular American crime drama . The episode when shown on October 14, 2002. Summary A dead man with a slit throat and a partially burned face is discovered on a Miami beach, along with an unconscious young girl who was (not French-kiss, just regular) and still remain good friends? I need this so much, you can't believe it. Just One Kiss Dear Just One Kiss, I know the feeling but, unfortunately, I can't say, "Who cares that he wants to be just friends? If you feel like kissing him, hey, go for it!" Doesn't work that way. I know you're yearning for more, but try to enjoy the friendship. If you rush to pucker puck·er v. puck·ered, puck·er·ing, puck·ers v.tr. To gather into small wrinkles or folds: puckered my lips; puckered the curtains. v.intr. up, he might go into panic mode. Wouldn't you freak if a guy friend surprised you with a kiss? (I mean, a different guy friend!) Besides, even if you were to cop that kiss, you would not magically get A's or stop daydreaming. You might even daydream about more kisses! Will the two of you cozy up Verb 1. cozy up - ingratiate oneself to; often with insincere behavior; "She is playing up to the chairman" cotton up, shine up, sidle up, suck up, play up ingratiate - gain favor with somebody by deliberate efforts someday some·day adv. At an indefinite time in the future. Usage Note: The adverbs someday and sometime express future time indefinitely: We'll succeed someday. Come sometime. ? Maybe, maybe not. For now, keep your head out of the clouds. Dear Carol, I'm on a volleyball team, and my friend and I skipped a practice. The coach found out, so she didn't let us play the next game. The coach doesn't care that much anymore, but I still feel terrible. How can I get over my guilt? Ditcher Dear Ditcher, You're no ditcher--you're a girl who ditched one time and feels terrible about it and won't make that mistake again. You got caught and learned that you feel better playing by the rules. Now, give yourself permission to move on. Dear Carol, I've been best friends with this girl practically forever. We were never in the same classes but, this year, we are in almost every class together. It's great, except she gets really jealous whenever I get a good grade. Down With a Friend Dear Down With a Friend, It's tough having a jealous friend but, believe it or not, it's also tough for her being the jealous one. Be sure you're not boasting about your grades. If you are humble and she still holds your A's against you, speak up. Say, "I wish you wouldn't be mad about my grades. I could act jealous of your great singing voice or how well you shoot baskets, but I'm happy for you. Let's support each other, OK?" Friendships often go through growing pains grow·ing pains pl.n. Pains in the limbs and joints of children or adolescents, frequently occurring at night and often attributed to rapid growth but arising from various unrelated causes. but, since you two are so tight, it's worth working through this. Dear Carol, My parents are divorcing, and my mom is doing things I never thought she would. I was on her side, but now' I'm on my dad's side, I might go live with him. Is that the right thing to do? Parent Problem Dear Parent Problem, I'm sorry you're going through this. Your parents are divorcing each other, not you, so you do not have to choose whose side you are on. As for which parent to live with, that's a complicated and important question. Instead of considering which parent you feel is in the wrong, ask yourself which parent can take better care of you and with whom you'd be happiest. Is one parent staying near your school while the other is moving? Does either have a substance abuse problem or too-hectic work schedule? Talking to Noun 1. talking to - a lengthy rebuke; "a good lecture was my father's idea of discipline"; "the teacher gave him a talking to" lecture, speech rebuke, reprehension, reprimand, reproof, reproval - an act or expression of criticism and censure; "he had to kids with divorced parents may provide insight, but it'd be ideal to talk to a counselor. Dear Carol, I don't want to stay friends with this girl, but she can't accept it. She is one of those big baby types. When I told her I don't want to be her friend anymore, she got mad and told her mom. Now her mom won't let me talk to her older sister, and we were close too. Really Mad Dear Really Mad, Can you see things from your former friend's point of view? Of course she's upset. You don't want to be her friend. That hurts. Honesty is a virtue, but be aware of others' feelings. Telling someone a friendship is over causes anguish, which is why it's often best to drift away Verb 1. drift away - lose personal contact over time; "The two women, who had been roommates in college, drifted apart after they got married" drift apart subtly. What to do? Apologize, or lie low. Time will help but, for now, talk with the sister in school or online--don't call her home. Dear Carol, Do you think teenagers are too young to experience love? Wondering Dear Wondering, No. But too many girls go out with someone for just two days or two weeks, then label it love and try to rush the physical stuff. Being in a hurry can lead to heartbreak or disaster. Falling in love is wonderful, but be patient. It's wise to invest in your interests and schoolwork, not just on one crush after the next. Dear Carol, My sister and I get in too many fights. My mom says she and her sibs only fought once. My parents don't think it's normal that we fight. What should I do? Family Feud This article is about the American game show. For other versions, see Family Feud around the world. For rivalries between families, see Feud. Family Feud Dear Family Feud, Some families are more combative com·bat·ive adj. Eager or disposed to fight; belligerent. See Synonyms at argumentative. com·bat  ive·ly adv. than others and, yes, it's
normal for siblings siblings npl (formal) → frères et sœurs mpl (de mêmes parents) to fight. It's possible your mom She goes to the gym. has a
selective memory, but it's definite that you and your sister fight
too much, so try changing your ways. Next time you are about to go at
each other, say, "I don't really want to fight, do you?"
Or simply walk away from her. Or shock yourself by saying something nice
that will end a fight (like, "Yes, you can borrow my sweater")
rather than something aggressive that will keep it going (Like,
"Stay out of my closet!"). It's great when sisters can be
friends, so treat each other with respect. Compliment her, share
earrings and popcorn, say things like, "Good luck on the
test." It won't kill you. Change won't happen overnight,
but relationships are like mirrors. If you yell, you get yelled yell v. yelled, yell·ing, yells v.intr. To cry out loudly, as in pain, fright, surprise, or enthusiasm. v.tr. To utter or express with a loud cry. See Synonyms at shout. n. at. If you act sweet, sweetness comes back to you. Dear Carol, All my friends wear makeup, but my mom won't let me. I sneak it sometimes, but my little brother sees me wearing it at school and tells on me. I hate how I look without makeup. How can I get her to give in? Wanting to Look Pretty Dear Wanting to Look Pretty, I'm sure you are pretty without makeup, and I hate that you "hate" the way you look au naturel. Instead of telling your mom "all" your friends wear makeup, how about compromising? Say, "Mom, I'd like to wear just a little lip gloss to school. I don't want to go behind your back, so is it OK?" Good luck, but don't fall into the trap of thinking girls need products to look presentable pre·sent·a·ble adj. 1. That can be given, displayed, or offered: presentable gifts; presentable attire. 2. Fit for introduction to others: presentable relatives. . It's just not true. Girls are beautiful--with or without makeup. Dear Carol, My best friend hasn't eaten anything at lunch for two days. She says she isn't hungry, but I know she thinks she's fat. Even though she knows about eating disorders eating disorders, in psychology, disorders in eating patterns that comprise four categories: anorexia nervosa, bulimia, rumination disorder, and pica. Anorexia nervosa is characterized by self-starvation to avoid obesity. , she's lock-jawed. I told her she's scaring me, but she won't listen. My other friends say there's nothing I can do, but I think it's serious. Really Concerned Dear Really Concerned, It's great to be concerned, but keep your perspective. Skipping two lunches is not a healthy decision, but it's no reason to call 911. If she keeps skipping meals, confide in your mom or a school counselor A school counselor is a counselor and educator who works in schools, and have historically been referred to as "guidance counselors" or "educational counselors," although "Professional School Counselor" is now the preferred term. . From here, I can't tell if your friend has a budding budding, type of grafting in which a plant bud is inserted under the bark of the stock (usually not more than a year old). It is best done when the bark will peel easily and the buds are mature, as in spring, late summer, or early autumn. eating disorder eat·ing disorder n. Any of several patterns of severely disturbed eating behavior, especially anorexia nervosa and bulimia, seen mainly in female teenagers and young women. or simply doesn't know how to drop pounds healthfully health·ful adj. 1. Conducive to good health; salutary. 2. Healthy. See Usage Note at healthy. health . I applaud you for caring about your friend, but show your concern without nagging or monitoring her every bite. As for your friends saying there's nothing you can do, they are mistaken. Friends can always help by listening to, encouraging and supporting each other. Dear Carol, I feel stupid asking this, but I've been having sexual desires and I'm only going into seventh grade! My mom told me I'd be having feelings for boys, but does she mean these kinds of feelings? I would, of course, never think about actually having sex, but I do think about what it would be like when I'm older and married. Is this normal, or should I get help? Too Sexy For My Shirt Dear Too Sexy For My Shirt, It's normal to think about this and normal not to. You are right that it would be a terrible idea to act on these sexual feelings sexual feelings A constellation of psychological sentiments that constitute desire for sexual satisfaction or release of sexual tension , but thinking thoughts is completely natural. No cause for worry. It's all part of growing up. Dear Carol, My parents recently told me I had a twin who died at birth. They told my sister about four years ago, but not me. I don't know Don't know (DK, DKed) "Don't know the trade." A Street expression used whenever one party lacks knowledge of a trade or receives conflicting instructions from the other party. what tears me up more--the fact that my twin died or that they didn't tell me sooner. Help! Dear Help!, Wow, that's some heavy information. Your parents probably did not tell you because they knew it would upset you. What they did not realize was that there's never an ideal time to share such unsettling un·set·tle v. un·set·tled, un·set·tling, un·set·tles v.tr. 1. To displace from a settled condition; disrupt. 2. To make uneasy; disturb. v.intr. news. Your mixed-up feelings are legitimate, but it's not too late to talk now. Tell your parents you feel sad knowing you had a twin and that you wish they'd told you. Be frank, but have some compassion for what they went through. I'm sure it wasn't easy for them to experience a birth and death at the same time. It may take some time for you to fully deal with your new knowledge, but this loss is a reminder that families are precious--and not to be taken for granted Adj. 1. taken for granted - evident without proof or argument; "an axiomatic truth"; "we hold these truths to be self-evident" axiomatic, self-evident obvious - easily perceived by the senses or grasped by the mind; "obvious errors" . Want more advice? Carol Weston's books include Girltalk: All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You and For Girls Only (HarperCollins). Her novels include Melanie in Manhattan and With Love From Spain, Melanie Martin (Knopf). Her website is carolweston.com. You can also write Carol c/o Girls' Life Girls' Life (ガールズライフ Gāruzu Raifu 4517 Harford Road, Baltimore, MD, 21214. For a reply, include a stamped self-addressed envelope. She is sorry she can't answer every question personally. |
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