Dear Carol!Dear Carol, My mother is skinny (Skinny Station Protocol) Cisco's proprietary implementation of the H.323 IP telephony model. Skinny phones can also be configured for the SIP protocol. See IP telephony. and gorgeous. I'm fat "I'm Fat" is a single created by the band Ween. It was released 7" ClearVinyl/BlackVinyl/WhiteVinyl by Vital Music Records in 1992. Single includes a mini poster Features Dickie Moist from the Moistboyz, and Gene Ween on vocals. and ugly. When she and I walk down the hallway of my school, guys look at her and not me. I hate being in my mother's shadow. I want my own spotlight. Can you help? Shadow Girl Dear Shadow Girl, I'm sure you are not ugly. But if you really are overweight, then do yourself a favor and get it under control. You'll feel better, physically and emotionally. Make new habits: Take smaller portions, cut back on soda, get more exercise, and leave junk food junk food n. Any of various prepackaged snack foods high in calories but low in nutritional value. junk food on store shelves. Since the only healthful health·ful adj. 1. Conducive to good health; salutary. 2. Healthy. health  ful·ness n. part of a donut is the hole,
stock up on grapes, carrots, herbal teas and sugarless gum. As for your
frustration issues concerning your morn, talk with a caring relative or
school counselor A school counselor is a counselor and educator who works in schools, and have historically been referred to as "guidance counselors" or "educational counselors," although "Professional School Counselor" is now the preferred term. . Or level with Mom directly. She may be willing to keep
her distance from classmates Classmates can refer to either:
Dear Carol, I'm the only girl in class who doesn't have a boyfriend. One friend whines on weekends about how much she misses her guy, then says, "You wouldn't know because you don't have a BF." Boyfriendless Dear Boyfriendless, Go through your school directory, put a dot by each girl who truly has a BF, and you'll find that most girls do not have boyfriends. I also assure you that if you're friendly to lots of guys, something will eventually spark. Meantime, what concerns me is not your boyfriendlessness (if spell-check will let me get away with that word); it's that your friend is so obnoxious. Next time she launches into her veiled bragging, say, "I get it. You're miserable without him. Shame, but let's talk about something else." She's trying to make you jealous, so why buy in? Plan active weekends of skating skating: see ice skating; ice dancing; roller skating. skating Sport in which bladelike runners or sets of wheels attached to shoes are used for gliding on ice or on surfaces other than ice. , skiing, shopping, movies and snowman-building with her ... or with more thoughtful girls. Dear Carol, A friend of mine tries to be like me, even buying the same clothes. It's irritating, and people think I'm copying her. I want to be my own person and not have a clone walking though the halls. How can I tell her this without hurting her or being a lame lame (lam) incapable of normal locomotion; deviating from normal gait. lame adj. 1. Disabled so that movement, especially walking, is difficult or impossible. 2. friend? Trend Setter setter: see sporting dog. setter Any of three breeds derived from a medieval hunting dog that would set (lie down) when it found birds so that it and the birds could be covered with a net. Setters have long hair on the ears, chest, legs, and tail. Dear Trend Setter, Compliment her when she wears something you genuinely like on her. Say, "That's so you!" or, "I really love how you wear lots of bracelets." Or help her find her color by saying, "You look amazing a·maze v. a·mazed, a·maz·ing, a·maz·es v.tr. 1. To affect with great wonder; astonish. See Synonyms at surprise. 2. Obsolete To bewilder; perplex. v.intr. in pink" (or blue or green). It's also OK to say, "I'm not comfortable when you buy the same skirt I just bought. We're kind of old to do the twin thing." Dear Carol, I have a serious problem. I get e-mails from people I don't know Don't know (DK, DKed) "Don't know the trade." A Street expression used whenever one party lacks knowledge of a trade or receives conflicting instructions from the other party. asking for my help on money matters. They live in other countries and send me messages saying their families have been killed. I'm sure these e-mail messages are sent to me by mistake because I'm only 14. One of my teachers is part of the National Guard. Should I show him the e-mails? Will he be able to help them? Some of these people seem desperate. Unlikely Ambassador Dear Unlikely Ambassador, Your heart certainly is in the right place, but these are scares by con artists. Those e-mailers are not desperate--they are greedy and trying to make money. You're right: Adults in need do not seek help from random teenagers. I get similar e-mails all the time, and my advice is to stop reading them and start hitting "delete." As for showing a teacher, sure, that's a good idea. Whether in the National Guard or not, a teacher can shed some light on the situation. Dear Carol, I told a guy I liked him after we'd spent an hour together at a soccer game, but he said he doesn't want to go out. Shouldn't you always tell a guy you like him before the chance slips away? Mini Date Blues Dear Mini Date Blues, Rather than rush to tell someone you like him, it's wiser to keep getting to know him. Enjoy flirting, and slowly figure out how you feel about each other. This beats scaring the guy away before he's even asked for your screen name. There's time to get things going, so don't pressure yourself or him. Too many teens think they're supposed to grab a guy and race around the bases. But these same teens usually wind up in relationships that end too suddenly or never quite work out. Dear Carol, When I get my period, I'm embarrassed to buy supplies. The store's tampons and pads are right where everyone can see. I hate going to the checkout unless there's a woman cashier CASHIER. An officer of a moneyed institution, who is entitled by virtue of his office to take care of the cash or money of such institution. 2. The cashier of a bank is usually entrusted with all the funds of the bank, its notes, bills, and other choses in . Even then, I'm bashful bash·ful adj. 1. Shy, self-conscious, and awkward in the presence of others. See Synonyms at shy1. 2. Characterized by, showing, or resulting from shyness, self-consciousness, or awkwardness. . What should I do? Embarrassed ... period Dear Embarrassed ... period, I hear you, but I'm trying to think of a sweet way to say, um, get over it. You're not the only female who menstruates, so there's no need to feel funny. If your crush walks in the store, stash stash Drug slang noun A place where illicit drugs are hidden the stuff and pretend you're choosing between Orbit and Extra. Otherwise, just be brave and buy what you need. Believe me, cashiers won't flinch flinch intr.v. flinched, flinch·ing, flinch·es 1. To start or wince involuntarily, as from surprise or pain. 2. To recoil, as from something unpleasant or difficult; shrink. n. and neither will the people in line. Still squeamish squea·mish adj. 1. a. Easily nauseated or sickened. b. Nauseated. 2. Easily shocked or disgusted. 3. Excessively fastidious or scrupulous. ? Ask a female relative to pick up supplies. Dear Carol, I got accepted to the art school of my dreams. I am so happy but, at the same time, I'm not. It's a private school, so my parents have to pay tuition. They've put so much pressure on me to get in, but now I don't want to go. I was new to my school this year, so I know how hard it is to make friends and I don't want to go through that again. How can I tell my parents I want to stay with my new friends? Scared Artist Dear Scared Artist, Congratulations on getting accepted to the art school of your dreams! Your second thoughts are natural but, before you tell your parents you've changed your mind about this opportunity, schedule a day at the art school so you can see what you think of it. You're worried about making new friends, but you know you can--you just did it. Ideally, you'll make more new friends and keep the current ones. Charge can be scary but exciting too. And if you don't like the art school, I'II bet you could return to your same school next year. Dear Carol, I am sort of a crybaby. I am 14 and cry all the time. If someone yells at me, I cry. I can't help it. One teacher me I'm too hold old for that. This upset me and, of course, made me cry. How can I hold it in? Cry Teen Dear Cry Teen, Confession: I used to cry a lot, too. But I've learned to hold back the tears when necessary, and so can you. Rather than say, "I can't help it," take charge of those tear ducts. Tell yourself, "I can stay in control." Find someone--a friend, relative, counselor or teacher--to talk to about pent-up emotions. Keeping a diary can give you a safe place to spill all. Get enough sleep (everyone feels fragile when tired), and do activities that make you feel good about yourself. With a little effort, you can become known for your smile instead of tears. Dear Carol, I am so stressed because I have no time for myself. Even softball softball, variant of baseball played with a larger ball on a smaller field. Invented (1888) in Chicago as an indoor game, it was at various times called indoor baseball, mush ball, playground ball, kitten ball, and, because it was also played by women, ladies' games feel like they're about winning or losing instead of having fun. I can relax in front of the TV, but my patents don't like me to watch much. Overworked and Overwhelmed o·ver·whelm tr.v. o·ver·whelmed, o·ver·whelm·ing, o·ver·whelms 1. To surge over and submerge; engulf: waves overwhelming the rocky shoreline. 2. a. Dear Overworked and Overwhelmed, We all get stressed, but give yourself permission to chill. Baking heart-shaped cookies, painting your toenails or reading a novel can make a difference. Even straightening a messy drawer or makeup collection can help you unwind Unwind 1. The closure of an investment position. 2. The reconciliation of an error previously unseen by a brokerage house. Notes: 1. Sometimes referred to as closing out a position. . A school counselor can also talk to you about balancing your life and, perhaps, dropping an activity from your schedule. Dear Carol, My friends think they know everything about sex, but where can we go for the facts? Don't say, "Ask your parents." Needs Info Dear Needs Info, I don't think you should get sexually involved until you're much older, but knowing accurate facts is FACTS I Federal Agencies' Centralized Trial-Balance System better than having misinformation mis·in·form tr.v. mis·in·formed, mis·in·form·ing, mis·in·forms To provide with incorrect information. mis or no information at all. You can get reliable info from sites like iwannaknow.org, teensource.org and teenwire.com. Dear Carol, This kid says mean things to me because I broke up with him. I'm really tired of it and want him to stop, but how? Annoyed Ex Dear Annoyed Ex, Breakups can be messy, but it sounds like his feelings are hurt. You could shout, "Look, it's over so leave me alone!" But it would be kinder and more effective to say, "I wish we could be friends again. Let's start over--I will if you will." Do it in person, on the phone or online. |
|
||||||||||||||||||||||
Printer friendly
Cite/link
Email
Feedback
Reader Opinion