DEALING WITH HUSBAND'S PORNO FIXATION.

Byline: ANN LANDERS 

Dear Ann Landers: When I read the letter from "Silently Weeping in Kansas," I knew I had to write. She was the woman who, after her husband died, found condoms in his wallet and pornography in his desk. That woman is lucky to be a widow. I wish I could trade places with her.

By accident, I discovered that my husband collects pornographic movies and magazines. They show women with women, men with men, and mixed groups. Those photos made me physically sick. I didn't view the movies. The titles alone were enough.

If that kind of garbage is what a man wants, I say fine, then don't get married and live a lie.

You told "Kansas" to remember the good things. That's not easy to do when your trust has been broken. I don't know if my husband has had any affairs, but my discovery has made me suspicious.

Any suggestions as to what I can do about his taste for garbage?

- Shocked and Disillusioned in Los Angeles 

Dear Los Angeles: You can't do anything about your husband's taste for garbage, but you can and should do something about your obsession with the subject. It is souring your marriage and ruining your life.

A good therapist will provide the opportunity to vent your anger. He (or she) will also give you some understanding of why men who have "nice" wives have a predilection for trash. When you discover it has nothing to do with a deficiency in you but is due to your husband's adolescent approach to sex, your anger will subside and you will have a better marriage.

Dear Ann Landers: I'm still shaking as I write this letter. This evening, I was driving down the expressway with my mother when I discovered, to my horror, that a dog had wandered onto the road.

The headlights of the car next to us must have frightened the poor thing. He appeared to be totally disoriented. We were horrified to see that beautiful animal trapped. It was impossible to stop because there were at least four cars behind us. Suddenly, I felt a thud and knew we had hit the dog. If it had been possible in that brief second to avoid hitting the animal, I would have done so. What's worse, I was unable to stop and see if he was hurt or dead. There were vehicles ahead of us, behind us and in the next lane, all going at least 70 miles an hour. I had no choice, so I had to keep going.

Please, Miss Landers, tell dog owners if they love their pets to keep them tied up. I will have nightmares for a long time to come even though what happened that night was not my fault. Just sign me

- Sick at Heart in Pasadena

Dear Pasadena: Some dogs that are tied up get loose, which means they were not properly secured. As for those who are permitted to run loose, their owners should face stiff fines.

It must be terrifying for the animal, and it is grossly unfair to subject innocent people like you to such an agonizing experience, followed by nightmares for weeks to come. I hope every dog owner who reads this will ask him or herself, "Could this happen to me?"