Cracking the code.That funny little thing called love... Bill: Love is a strange thing to guys, but they know "I love you" is a big deal to a girl. Dave: Sometimes saying, "I love you," is the only thing a guy can think to say when you tell him you love him. You can't exactly respond by asking a girl if she'd like to watch Party of Five reruns. When a guy says he loves you, what does he mean? BILL: How nice that you think a guy is capable of multi-layered thinking. Basically, you're asking, "What is love?" I try to refer all questions like this to Shakespeare. However, since the bard died about 400 years ago and doesn't respond to my e-mails, I'll give it a shot. Manipulative ma·nip·u·la·tive adj. Serving, tending, or having the power to manipulate. n. Any of various objects designed to be moved or arranged by hand as a means of developing motor skills or understanding abstractions, especially in guys say the magic words to achieve their own ends. A genuine guy might take a little longer to tell you he loves you (and he may never actually come out and say it), but he probably really values you. DAVE: Come on, Bill. Shakespeare? I'll defer de·fer 1 v. de·ferred, de·fer·ring, de·fers v.tr. 1. To put off; postpone. 2. To postpone the induction of (one eligible for the military draft). v.intr. to the 17th-century French writer Francois de La Rochefoucauld Noun 1. Francois de La Rochefoucauld - French writer of moralistic maxims (1613-1680) La Rochefoucauld , who said, "It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it." The younger you are, the truer that observation. And any guy with a name that cool and that long must know what he's talking about. I have a crush crush A combination commodity trade in which soybean futures are purchased and soybean meal or oil futures are sold. Compare reverse crush. on this guy, but he's already going out with someone. He talks to me a lot, and she's getting really mad at me. Shouldn't she be mad at him? Do you think he likes me? If so, what should I do? BILL: Hey, that's three questions! I'll answer them in reverse order. Question 3: You probably shouldn't do anything differently, assuming you're just being friendly and not competitive. Question 2: He definitely likes you, unless he's perhaps trying to make his girlfriend jealous jeal·ous adj. 1. Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position. 2. a. Resentful or bitter in rivalry; envious: jealous of the success of others. . But that would be a lot for most guys to keep straight in their minds. So he probably likes you. Question 1: His girlfriend should be mad at him. She's mad at you because she's not confident in her relationship and her guy's eye is wandering Wandering See also Adventurousness, Bohemianism, Journey, Quest. Ahasuerus German name for the Wandering Jew. [Ger. Lit. . DAVE: Don't pursue the guy--let the cards fall where they will. If you're the one for him, he'll let you know. Sure, she shouldn't be mad at you. But she doesn't want to be mad at the guy she digs, and you are the next closest target. Does he like you or just dislike her? That remains to be seen. Why do guys like to fight? DAVE: Who us? Says who? Would you like to step outside and accuse ac·cuse v. ac·cused, ac·cus·ing, ac·cus·es v.tr. 1. To charge with a shortcoming or error. 2. To charge formally with a wrongdoing. v.intr. me of likin' to brawl brawl n. 1. A noisy quarrel or fight. 2. A loud party. 3. A loud, roaring noise. intr.v. brawled, brawl·ing, brawls 1. To quarrel or fight noisily. 2. ? I don't know Don't know (DK, DKed) "Don't know the trade." A Street expression used whenever one party lacks knowledge of a trade or receives conflicting instructions from the other party. if guys like to fight as much as society expects us to fight. Too often, guys act a certain way because they feel that's how they are supposed to behave. Girls do this too--it just doesn't end with bloody noses. BILL: Fighting is a guy's way of saying, "Hey, I really like you, man," without having to resort to actual words. I'm just kidding. But let me point out that not all guys like to fight. In fact, most guys don't like to fight. My experience is that the less intellectually developed tend to resort to physical means to solve their differences. Translation: The majority of guys who fight do so because they're idiots. I'm going out with this guy, but he rarely calls. I don't want to seem pushy push·y adj. push·i·er, push·i·est Disagreeably aggressive or forward. push  i·ly adv. , hut sometimes it doesn't even seem like
he's my boyfriend. What should I do?
BILL: As a gender, guys aren't the greatest communicators, especially when dealing with feelings. We tend to act rather than talk. If you really like this guy, take it easy. If he treats you well, listens to you and is attentive at·ten·tive adj. 1. Giving care or attention; watchful: attentive to detail. 2. Marked by or offering devoted and assiduous attention to the pleasure or comfort of others. when you're together, then so what if he doesn't dial your digits? DAVE: Guys aren't the greatest gabbers, but why are they always expected to take the initiative? Do you think the Gals Q&A columnists get questions from guys asking why girls don't call them? Of course not, because the pressure is on the boys to pick up the phone. Well, let me tell you, that isn't as easy as sitting at home and waiting for the phone to ring. You girls could make it easier on us by saying something like, "I'd love to chat with you for a few minutes tonight. Why don'tcha call?" That will help with the inevitable "should I or shouldn't I dial" hangup that plays out in a guy's head each time he has to think about making The Call. |
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