Child Expert Warns: 'Tis the Season for Child Abuse.

WASHINGTON -- Hollywood and Madison Avenue promote the image of the perfect family during the holiday season, but nationally recognized child abuse expert Joyce Thomas, head of the Center for Child Protection and Family Support in Washington, D.C., tells a different story.

Ms. Thomas explains that parenting is difficult in the best of times, but stress during the holiday season escalates abuse cases. "Between the financial pressure to overspend, fatigue from being overscheduled, excessive drinking, unrealistic expectations and potential isolation from family members this time of year, factors can combine to really take their toll on those who have problems controlling their temper."

Ms. Thomas offers some advice for managing holiday stress and reducing the likelihood that your children will come in harm's way:

Don't over schedule. If childcare demands already leave you feeling stressed, don't compound that by trying to attend every party, shopping for the perfect presents, cooking, baking and decorating up a storm.

Watch your budget. Skip that expensive toy in favor of something else on your child's list that is within your means. Better yet, give the gift of time - a simple afternoon at the park or Saturday of sledding together will build memories that long outlast this year's hot toy.

Accept help. Don't be afraid to ask for a break. Lean on friends, family or neighbors. You don't have to do it all.

Recognize when you've reached your boiling point. Make sure your children have a safe haven, whether that is their own crib, a bedroom or even a quick visit at the neighbor's house while you gather yourself and give yourself a "time-out."

What should you do if you suspect abuse or neglect is occurring? According to Ms. Thomas, "Report it, and keep reporting it until something is done. You aren't required to provide proof. Suspicion of abuse or neglect is enough to file a report, and almost every state has laws in place protecting those who make good-faith reports of child abuse from prosecution and liability. You are ultimately helping a family - and may even be saving a child's life."

Thomas advises calling the Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD, or your state child protection agency. Additional resources are available the www.stopchildabusenow.org, the Web site of the Center for Child Protection and Family Support, a non profit agency serving victims of child abuse, neglect, maltreatment and violence, as well as training professionals in the field.