Brainwashed no more: the firestorm over Zach, an out teen trapped in an "ex-gay" program in Tennessee, has uncovered the far right's aggressive efforts to force gay youths to act straight. Some have escaped and share their harrowing tales.
The low point for Katie Frick was when a traveling evangelist had her stand up at the front of a church and had the faithful lay their hands on her, praying for the change. Jesus could do it, they assured her, if only she followed closely enough.
Frick, 18 at the time, was still fresh from a three-day Exodus International Exodus International is one of the major groups in the ex-gay movement. Exodus-affiliated ministries provides support for those who want "freedom from homosexuality". rally where emotions ran high and nightly altar calls forced gay teens on their knees. Maybe they could be shamed into repenting their sexuality.
Frick tried. She had been sent to the program by her parents after she came out at 17, a move that led to her two-year journey with guilt and God. "They are destroying people," she says.
Yet Frick survived. She is now 21, completely out, and an active member at the Metropolitan Community Church in Sarasota, Fla. She hopes to become a minister in the gay-affirming denomination. "My current pastor has been with her partner for 26 years, and they are very happy," Frick says. "['Ex-gay' programs] don't show you that. I wouldn't take all the money in the world to go back."
That world is only getting more chilling: While programs that promise to turn gay men and lesbians straight have existed for more than two decades, experts say that during the past few years the religious right has banded together like never before to spend millions on such programs. An article in the September/October 2004 issue of Youth Worker Journal, a magazine aimed at those who minister to young people, says sexuality will be a top issue to be addressed by ministries in the next 20 years.
"What makes these programs so effective is the large infrastructure that supports them, both directly and through their constant influence," says Peterson Toscano Peterson Toscano (born February 17, 1965) is a playwright, actor and gay activist. He spent nearly two decades in the ex-gay movement attempting to alter his sexual orientation through reparative therapy. , who unsuccessfully tried to turn himself straight" in the Love in Action ex-gay ministry almost a decade ago. Today, he satirizes the experience in his one-man comedy routine Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House halfway house /half·way house/ (haf´wa hous) a residence for patients (e.g., mental patients, drug addicts, alcoholics) who do not require hospitalization but who need an intermediate degree of care until they can return to the community. .
The issue reached a crescendo in June when 16-year-old Zach described on his blog at www.myspace.com/specialkid his unwilling enrollment--by his parents--in a restrictive program called Refuge, a youth organization near Memphis affiliated with Love in Action International. A firestorm of controversy, government inquiries, and protests by gay rights groups resulted. The Tennessee Department of Mental Health and Developmental Disabilities developmental disabilities (DD),
n.pl the pathologic conditions that have their origin in the embryology and growth and development of an individual. DDs usually appear clinically before 18 years of age. began looking into the program in July, wanting to know if it conducted improper counseling with unlicensed employees, and the state's Department of Children's Services investigated the group on a child abuse complaint, finding the claim unsubstantiated.
The effort to get teens to turn straight is being led by Focus on the Family and Exodus, an umbrella organization
An umbrella organization is an association of (often related, industry-specific) institutions, who work together formally to coordinate activities or for more than 120 programs. Focus, with $136 million in annual revenue, in 2003 spent $10.2 million on antigay efforts including its ex-gay program, Love Won Out, and fighting marriage equality. The year before it reported only $4.9 million for "public policy awareness."
Exodus officials say launching Exodus Youth, aimed at teens, was one of their major accomplishments of 2002, and the marketing is intensifying. The Exodus annual conference in Asheville, N.C., in July, specifically targeted both teens and parents who would do practically anything to make their kids straight.
Child welfare advocates are deeply concerned about programs that take in children on a residential basis and even on some overseas "boot camps" or "ranches." Such camps exist in the United States United States, officially United States of America, republic (2005 est. pop. 295,734,000), 3,539,227 sq mi (9,166,598 sq km), North America. The United States is the world's third largest country in population and the fourth largest country in area. and in places like Jamaica and Mexico, where there is little or no government oversight. Many programs aren't required to file even the most basic public record information since they fall under the umbrella of churches and have a religious exemption from state licensing and taxes. They may not tout themselves as ex-gay in advertising, yet they harbor the same disdain for gayness--far from the watchful eyes of federal authorities.
Federal representative George Miller George Miller may refer to:
Characterized by neglect; heedless: neglectful of their responsibilities. See Synonyms at negligent.
ne·glect conditions. The watchdog group International Survivors Action Committee declares not only WWASP WWASP World Wide Association of Specialty Programs as dangerous but also warns parents against Refuge, a program touted by leaders of the ex-gay movement.
"There's no doubt in my mind that there is a concerted, organized, and coordinated effort to target kids," says Wayne Besen Wayne Besen is a gay rights advocate in the United States. He is a former spokesman for the Human Rights Campaign.
Besen, a gay man, was never personally involved in the ex-gay movement, but says he has interviewed hundreds of former and current ex-gays. , author of Anything But Straight, a 2003 book on the ex-gay movement. He's fearful of get-tough conservative religious programs like Refuge, which offers two- and six-week residential programs for teens. And outside the United States, Besen says, such camps "are harder to monitor. It's like tracking nursing homes that abuse the elderly. They don't exactly advertise [the abuse]."
Gays and lesbians may not realize the lengths to which the groups go to get youths' attention. In some cases they've resorted to one of the oldest tricks in the Internet porn industry: using benign keywords to lure Web surfers. One ex-gay Web site for youths, for instance, uses "Yugioh!," the name of a card game popular with young children, as a keyword that will be picked up by search engines. Another uses "Walt Disney World Noun 1. Walt Disney World - a large amusement park established in 1971 to the southwest of Orlando
Orlando - a city in central Florida; site of Walt Disney World ."
Evergreen International This article is about a non-profit organization. For the aviation company see Evergreen International Aviation
Evergreen International, Inc. is a non-profit organization located in Salt Lake City, Utah, whose stated mission is to assist "people who want to diminish same-sex , a Utah-based Mormon group that targets youths, has opted to use a scientific-sounding name--the Center for the Study of Gender-Affirmative Therapy--to lend credibility to its teachings. Expanding the program was one of their major goals for 2003.
Such programs are olden old·en
Of, relating to, or belonging to time long past; old or ancient: olden days.
[Middle English : old, old; see old + -en, adj. denounced by former members--most notoriously Exodus itself, as two of its founders, Gary Cooper and Michael Bussee, in 1979 fell in love, rejected the organization, left their wives, and remained committed to one another until Coopers death in the 1990s. (They are pictured on page 45, in the blue tuxedos.) John Evans John Evans may refer to:
tr.v. co·found·ed, co·found·ing, co·founds
To establish or found in concert with another or others.
co·found of Love in Action, renounced the program 30 years ago, and a recent statement details his objections. "Since leaving the 'ex-gay' ministry I have seen nothing but shattered lives, depression and even suicide among those connected with the 'ex-gay' movement," he wrote in a statement released by Besen July 30. "I challenge Christians to investigate all sides of the issue of being gay and Christian."
The ministries' long-term effect on impressionable young gay people continues to worry, advocates such as E.J. Friedman, 35, one of about 10 activists and media representatives who attended a Refuge meeting in July to hear the "ex-gay" pitch firsthand. "These are children," Friedman says. "I'm so afraid this is going to be the kind of thing that they don't even realize the full effects of until months or even years later. That as their natural sexual feelings sexual feelings A constellation of psychological sentiments that constitute desire for sexual satisfaction or release of sexual tension come out, they won't be able to enjoy anything. They won't be able to enjoy life. They won't be able to be whole."
For Zach, the Tennessee blogger, being forced into Refuge was a direct result of being honest with his parents. Unmindful of his son's privacy, Zach's father talked to Pat Robertson's Christian Broadcasting Network The Christian Broadcasting Network, or CBN, is a Christian television broadcasting network in the United States. Its headquarters and main studios are in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
CBN was founded by evangelist Pat Robertson in 1961. , saying he would never regret placing his son there. (His parents did not return repeated phone calls, and The Advocate is not printing Zach's last name because he is under 18.)
Zach's perspective is related on his blog: "May 29--Well, today my mother, father, and I had a very long 'talk' in my room, where they let me know I am to apply for a fundamentalist Christian program for gays. They tell me that there is something psychologically wrong with me, and they 'raised me wrong.' ... I wish I had never told them. I wish I had just fought the urge for two more years. ... I had done it for three before then, right?"
After receiving the rules for the program--including bans on "campy" behavior and private journaling--Zach reported, "All new Refuge clients will be placed into Safekeeping Safekeeping
The storage of assets or other items of value in a protected area.
Individuals may use self-directed methods of safekeeping or the services of a bank or brokerage firm. for the initial two to three days of their program," a period during which the youths are forbidden any communication "or eye contact" with anyone.
Zach was livid livid /liv·id/ (liv´id) discolored, as from a contusion or bruise; black and blue.
adj. . Even prisons let people talk. "May 30--What is with these people? Honestly, how could you support a program like this? If I do come out straight, Ill be so mentally unstable and depressed that it won't matter. I'll be back in therapy again. This is not good."
Many deeply religious parents are more supportive of their children than Zach's dad. Longtime Southern Baptist Kay Holladay, 60, says her 41-year-old son came out to her and her husband when he was just an Oklahoma teenager, and they had no problems accepting him. They only recently left their Baptist church to help start their own group for "thinking Christians." A cofounder of the PFLAG PFLAG Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (since 1972; Washington, DC) chapter in Norman, Okla., Holladay also helps staff the group's hotline. Religion often plays a role in the anguish of parents who call, she says. "It's a constant thread that runs through everyone's fears. It's been hammered in for decades."
Holladay stresses that not all Christians reject GLBT GLBT Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered people. She believes one of the greatest tragedies of modern religion is the mistaken idea among many believers that a person can't be gay and Christian.
Certainly the Church of Jesus Christ Church of Jesus Christ may refer to:
The program, specializing in delinquents, wasn't billed as ex-gay, but Olfen says it was an unspoken understanding that they could "deal" with gay kids. For the four months he was there, he met weekly with a psychologist, who said he believed Olfen would "come around." The program took a rigid approach, and Olfen says it was shut down on abuse allegations in 2003 by the Mexican government.
Olfen only escaped the program after he wrote home to his parents to tell them he was "cured" and had met a girl there he liked.
He says he waxed poetic about how much the program showed him about himself and how he was ready to come home and live a straight life. Upon arriving home, he went back to his closet, where he stayed for another year.
He began dating his current partner when he was 17, after which he came out to his parents again and was told he needed to leave their home. Being gay was not OK in his family's house.
Olfen is now a junior and a Point Foundation scholar at Emory University in Atlanta. The foundation awards scholarships to GLBT youths with leadership qualities who have been financially disenfranchised by their families.
"It's very damaging," says Olfen of ex-gay programs. "I think the thing that saved me was that I had come out early enough that I had enough exposure with the gay community to know this world is out there. Had I not known that, I think it would have been much worse."
Today, Olfen lives happily with his partner of over three years in Atlanta.
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It took only two days for Kevin to figure out that the Dream Center, a large Los Angeles ministry, wasn't for him. The gay teenager, who grew up in California's foster care system, was tired of hearing from his foster mother, a religious social worker, and ministers from the conservative Christian program that he needed to be straight. When he turned 19 earlier this year he sought help at a transitional housing program for GLBT youth. Officials at Kevin's housing center (which The Advocate agreed not to identify, to protect his privacy) say the number of kids from religious homes who have wound up there during the past year has increased by about 10% and that their median age is getting lower.
GLBT youths kicked out by their families after coming out may find referrals to such queer-friendly shelter programs from sympathetic social workers or at local GLBT community centers such as those in Los Angeles (www.laglc.org), New York New York, state, United States
New York, Middle Atlantic state of the United States. It is bordered by Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and the Atlantic Ocean (E), New Jersey and Pennsylvania (S), Lakes Erie and Ontario and the Canadian province of , [www.gaycenter. org), or San Francisco (www. sfgaycenter.org). Some cities have well-established temporary or transitional housing programs such as Gay and Lesbian Adolescent Social Services (www.glass la.org) in Los Angeles, the Lambert House in Seattle (www.lamberthouse.org), or the All Forney Center in New York City New York City: see New York, city.
New York City
City (pop., 2000: 8,008,278), southeastern New York, at the mouth of the Hudson River. The largest city in the U.S. (www.aliforneycenter.org).
Supportive resources for Christian youth
* Gay Christian Outreach, online resources, message boards, chat; send e-mail to email@example.com
* Gay-Straight Alliance Network, aimed at teens in schools, at www.gsanetwork.org
* Metropolitan Community Churches, a GLBT-focused Christian denomination, at www.mccchurch.org
* OutProud, a group for teens, www.outproud.org
* PFLAG [see page 46], at www.pflag.org
* Soulforce, a gay-affirming spiritual organization, at www.soulforce.org
* Unitarian Universalist Church, a gay-inclusive denomination with roots in Christian and Jewish traditions, at www.uua.org
* United Church of Christ United Church of Christ, American Protestant denomination formed in 1957 by a merger of the General Council of Congregational Christian Churches (see Congregationalism) and the Evangelical and Reformed Church. , a gay-inclusive Christian denomination, at www.ucc.org
* Whosoever who·so·ev·er
Old-fashioned or formal same as whoever , an online magazine and resource center for gay Christians, including a mailing list, at www.whosoever.org
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Health pros say gay youth are A-OK
Guess which highly respected professional health organizations in the United States think the whole reparative re·par·a·tive also re·par·a·to·ry
1. Tending to repair.
2. Relating to or of the nature of reparations. therapy movement is a dangerous lie? All of them--including the American Academy of Pediatrics The American Academy of Pediatrics ("AAP") is an organization of pediatricians, physicians trained to deal with the medical care of infants, children, and adolescents. Its motto is: "Dedicated to the Health of All Children. , the American Psychiatric Association The American Psychiatric Association (APA) is the main professional organization of psychiatrists and trainee psychiatrists in the United States, and the most influential world-wide. Its some 148,000 members are mainly American but some are international. , the National Association of School Psychologists The National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) is the first and largest national professional organization created for the purpose of serving school psychologists. , and the National Association of Social Workers The National Association of Social Workers (NASW) is the largest membership organization of professional social workers in the world, with 150,000 members. The NASW works to enhance the professional growth and development of its members, to create and maintain professional . (We don't count rogue "professional" groups established by antigay activists or religious groups.)
In an official statement, the APA (All Points Addressable) Refers to an array (bitmapped screen, matrix, etc.) in which all bits or cells can be individually manipulated.
APA - Application Portability Architecture said, "The most important fact about 'reparative Therapy' ... is that it is based on an understanding of homosexuality [as a mental disorder mental disorder
Any illness with a psychological origin, manifested either in symptoms of emotional distress or in abnormal behaviour. Most mental disorders can be broadly classified as either psychoses or neuroses (see neurosis; psychosis). Psychoses (e.g. ] that has been rejected by all the major health and mental health professions....
"[H]ealth and mental health professional organizations do not support efforts to change young people's sexual orientation sexual orientation
The direction of one's sexual interest toward members of the same, opposite, or both sexes, especially a direction seen to be dictated by physiologic rather than sociologic forces. through 'reparative therapy' and have raised serious concerns about its potential to do harm." Find the complete statement at www.advocate.com.
Top 5 "ex-gay" exposes
Anything But Straight
(book, 2003) Wayne Besen's acclaimed and engaging work debunks "ex-gay" myths, including reparative therapy and the political movement built on supposed ex-gay "success" stories.
But I'm a Cheerleader (1)
(movie, 1999) This dark comedy about an all-American teen (Natasha Lyonne) sent off by her parents for "sexual redirection" is set at a camp run by Cathy Moriarty and RuPaul.
Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House
(one-man show, 2005) Peterson Toscano recounts his days inside the Christian ex-gay movement, portraying everything from being outed in Africa to living in the Homo No Mo Halfway House.
One Nation Under God (3)
(documentary, 1993) "Ex-lesbians" learn the benefits of makeovers while "ex-homosexuals" play football in this unintentionally funny and alarming doc.
(movie, 2004) In this charming comedy about the Christian fundamentalist youth movement, a boy is sent off to an ex-gay camp--where he finds love.
Griffith is bureau chief for the Orlando Sentinel.