Boyfriend's duster trick exposed my feather fear.
Q I HAVE a real fear of feathers and don't know why this is. I'm not scared of birds but even single feathers put me in a panic.
I don't usually tell anyone because they would think I was off my head.
I told my boyfriend after I had to ask him to pick up some feathers in our garden. The next night he came home and said he had a surprise for me. He told me to close my eyes and then I felt an awful sensation - a feather duster.
I had hysterics and couldn't stop screaming. He said he was sorry and that he was just trying to get me over my fear. But I'm worse than ever, and am terrified he'll do this again.
A I WILL, very reluctantly, give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and accept he did think he was helping you - but it was still wrong.
However, as he has apologised, and now realises the effect feathers have on you, he won't do it again. If he does, dump him - immediately.
But if you want genuine help with the problem log on to www.phobias.co.uk.