BFF Dilemma of the month.

My BBF has terrible table manners, but I really want to invite her to my family's annual holiday party. Should I?

Can I change my BFF's bad habits before the party without offending her, or will she embarrass me?

Tell your BFF that your parents are really strict about manners and that everyone has to be careful around them. Then she won't take it personally and should mind her manners.

--Brittini, 12

Tell her you really want her at your family party and think you both should practice the rules of good manners beforehand. That way, you'll wow everyone with being so well-mannered and yet so young.

--Fernanda, 14

If your friend is a messy eater, grab informal finger foods for her, like veggies from a platter or chicken fingers. That way, your bad-mannered bud will just be able to pop her dinner in her mouth. No hurt feelings.

--Steph, 14

Tell your BFF there is an etiquette class you would like to go to and that you'd love it if she could go with you. You'll learn good manners together. Your BFF will be able to put into practice what she learned to be more polite.

--Lauren, 13

Right before dinner, just say, "OK, my family is really proper and stuff, so we have to be really good." Simple reminders will make it look like more of a suggestion, She is your friend, so a little hint or comment shouldn't hurt that bad,

--Alaina, 11