Are you the go-to girl? When your bud really needs to pour her heart out, are you all ears--or a little hard of hearing?

You pride yourself on being a cool 'n' caring friend--and with good reason. Who put a dent in her piggy bank to buy her BFF those awesome cork wedges for her birthday? You did! Who turned down a date with her crush Friday night 'cause she'd already promised to see Nancy Drew with her girl? You did. Who is the best listener in the universe when your bud has a huge, monster-truck problem? You are ... uh, right?

Well, maybe. No doubt your heart is in the right place, but it takes some savvy to truly know how to pick up what your girl is putting out there when she really needs ya. Are you able to genuinely grasp what she's feeling so you can help her straighten out her perceived messes? Take this quiz to figure out whether you've totally got your BFF's back--or if your ears are a little out of whack.

1 You're all caught up in the America's Next Top Model finale when your girl Cate calls, crying her brains out--she just found out she failed bio. What slips outta your lips?

A) "I'm coming over right this sec so you can tell me everything."

B) "Don't freak--it doesn't mean you have to get held back a grade. You'll just have to go to summer school."

C) "I'm sooo sorry, but can I call you back in, like, 10 minutes? I'm right in the middle of something."

2 You and Ali are chowin' cheeseburgers at Friendly's. As usual, she's agonizing about how she wishes her crush Jacob would notice she's alive.

A) You snort, "Get real. If he hasn't asked you out by now, he's just not that into you. Hey, I'm still hungry. Wanna order some Reese's Pieces sundaes?"

B) You smile and say, "You're so amazing--it's totally his loss if you guys don't get together."

C) You nod, "Some boys are beyond lame. Move on, huh? I saw that other cutie full-on checking you out at the park yesterday!"

3 After Nicole told you her 'rents were splitting up, it was the weirdest thing--she never said another word about it. As her BFF since forever, you want to make sure she's OK. But how?

A) You worry she might be holding in all of her icky emotions, so you sit her down and say, "Can I ask if you're OK?"

B) You realize she might be feeling any number of things--sadness, yep, but maybe relief that everyone in her fam will be happier now, too. So you just say, "If you want to talk about stuff, I'm here for you 24/7."

C) You decide to hang back, big-time. If your folks were over, the last thing you'd want to do would be to chit-chat about it.

4 You're hanging poolside with your bud Brittany when she blurts, "I kissed my sister's crush, but I think it's OK because they aren't going out or anything." What do you say?

A) "How do you think your sis is gonna feel if she finds out?"

B) "OK, then--I'm not, like, into judging people or anything."

C) "I think that depends on who is more important to you--a guy or your sis."

5 Your bestie Emma is invited to dinner with her BF's fam, and wants a dreamy new dress. Once you guys hit the mall, what's your M.O. when she asks your fash advice?

A) You show her all of your fave styles. Emma would look great in that blue spaghetti-strap number you've had your eye on!

B) Emma's style is way diff from yours, so you only point out a dress if you think it might mesh with her personal taste.

C) You let her know which dresses you think are cute, but basically, it's her boyfriend, her dinner, her decision.

6 Your BFF Autumn has to have her appendix taken out. Autumn calls from the hospital, totally terrified. What do you say to reassure her?

A) "I totally get why you're scared, but you'll feel better when it's over."

B) "I had my appendix out when I was 7 and didn't act like such a baby."

C) "Zillions of people have operations every day and come out fine."

7 Your bud Kelly got busted dating a college freshman, and she's grounded for the entire summer. How do you react to the news?

A) Tell her she deserves it. If he's older than dirt, ya just don't flirt.

B) Agree that her punishment is harsh and suggest she try to reason with her mom again when they both cool off.

C) Help her see the sitch from her mom's point of view. If Kelly understands her mom just wants to protect her, she'll probably ditch the drama.

8 Samantha has a wardrobe malfunction at a packed pool party. Yep, her bikini top falls down. Whatcha got for her, girl?

A) Tell her you totally get how embarrassed she is, then suggest acting like nothing happened--as a team.

B) Recommend she leap over the back fence and run home as fast as she can. That's what you'd do.

C) Ask her what she'd feel most comfy doing--staying at the party and trying to laugh it off, or hightailing it home.

9 Your pal Christy is a rockin' tennis player, but she's stressed 'cause she's not getting along with her coach. She comes over to talk the problem through with you, but instead of getting to the point, she tells you zillions of details that don't really matter. Literally, hours are tickin' by--you don't wanna be rude, but you just gotta say....

A) "My eyes are glazed over like a canned ham! Get to the point!"

B) "Christy, what's the one thing that bothers you most about your coach?"

C) "If you can kinda cut to the chase, I can definitely help you figure out some smart options. Cool?"

ADD UP YOUR SCORE!

1. (a) 1, (b) 2, (c) 3

2. (a) 3, (b) 1, (c) 2

3. (a) 1, (b) 2, (c) 3

4. (a) 1, (b) 3, (c) 2

5. (a) 2, (b) 1, (c) 3

6. (a) 1, (b) 3, (c) 2

7, (a) 3, (b) 2, (c) 1

8. (a) 2, (b) 3, (c) 1

9. (a) 3, (b) 1, (c) 2

9-15 POINTS

SENSITIVE SISTAH

You're a fabulous listener and offer your bud the balanced perspective she needs. What's truly impressive? You know how to be objective, not over-emotional, so your girl can see her sitch in a cooler, calmer light. You rock at empathy to boot, so your first instinct is to let her know you understand how she probably feels. Your way of giving advice is to be supportive and help your bud see what she's dealing with and what she really wants to do about it. Congrats on being an excellent listener--just make sure you get the same terrific treatment from your friend next time you're dealin'.

16-20 POINTS

GIVE 'N' TAKE GAL

You're totally feelin' your girl's pain, but rather than straight-up giving out your action plan, your vibe is about encouraging her to find her owe solution. Why this approach rocks? Your support helps your bud take responsibility for what she's going through, which is a crucial step in maturing. When might your tactics backfire? Make sure you offer enough of your viewpoint so that she can see the situation with "fresh eyes"--you've probably got a perspective on the issue she hasn't come up with. Definitely speak your mind while continuing to show your bud she's packing toes of problem-solvin' power!

21-27 POINTS

MS. ME-THANG

You so want to help your bud--this is why you're hot. And here's why you're not: You tend to spin her sitch to how you would feel. The end game is that you might come off as insensitive, even though you totally don't mean to. When your girl comes to you with an issue, be careful not to hop on the "this is what I'd do if I were you" track. You guys are different people, so listen to your bud's fears and feelings--and don't judge her for having 'em. Let your girl tell you how she really feels instead of just assuming it. It'll open up your mind, and you'll be able to help her: Which is the whole point of being a friend, right? Right!