2001 parents as sexuality educators for their children with developmental disabilities.
Historically, the sexuality of individuals with developmental disabilities developmental disabilities (DD),
n.pl the pathologic conditions that have their origin in the embryology and growth and development of an individual. DDs usually appear clinically before 18 years of age. has been both feared and denied. For centuries, numerous myths prevailed, alleging that people with developmental disabilities were asexual asexual /asex·u·al/ (a-sek´shoo-al) having no sex; not sexual; not pertaining to sex.
1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
2. , oversexed o·ver·sexed
Having or showing an excessive sexual appetite or interest in sex. , sexually uncontrollable, sexually animalistic an·i·mal·ism
1. Enjoyment of vigorous health and physical drives.
2. Indifference to all but the physical appetites.
3. The doctrine that humans are merely animals with no spiritual nature. , subhuman sub·hu·man
1. Below the human race in evolutionary development.
2. Regarded as not being fully human.
sub·hu , dependent and childlike, and breeders of disability. (1)
Despite research that contradicts such myths, parents of children with developmental disabilities are still susceptible to these falsehoods. It is, therefore, not surprising that many experience anxiety regarding their children's sexual development and expression (2) ...
Although parent groups frequently have been the first to advocate for sexuality education for their children with developmental disabilities (3), few parents are adequately preparing their children for the socio-sexual aspects of life. (4)
Parents of children with developmental disabilities tend to be uncertain about the appropriate management of their children's sexual development. (5) They are often concerned with their son's or daughter's autoerotic autoerotic adjective Referring to sexuoerotic self-stimulation–eg masturbation. See Masturbation. behavior, overt signs of sexuality, physical development during puberty, and genital hygiene. (6) Fears of unwanted pregnancy unwanted pregnancy Obstetrics A pregnancy that is not desired by one or both biologic parents. See Teen pregnancy. , STDs, and embarrassing or hurtful situations are persistent realities. (7)
Some parents of children with developmental disabilities also fear that their children will be unable to express their sexual impulses appropriately, will produce children (thereby adding unwelcome responsibilities), and will be targets of sexual abuse or exploitation. (8) Parental anxiety over sexual exploitation often results in overprotection o·ver·pro·tect
tr.v. o·ver·pro·tect·ed, o·ver·pro·tect·ing, o·ver·pro·tects
To protect too much; coddle: overprotected their children. , thus depriving children with developmental disabilities of their sexual rights and freedom. (9) To alleviate fears and anxiety, parents may suppress their children's sexuality, and thus fail to equip them with the knowledge to deal appropriately with the sexual experiences they will encounter. (10)
The problem most frequently mentioned by parents regarding sexuality education is an inability to answer questions. (11) They are also often uncertain of what children know or should know. (12) Parents fear opening a Pandora's box of problems for themselves and their children by talking. (13) They often equate learning with intentions to perform sexual activities. (14) Professionals have found that parents have confused, anxious, and ambivalent attitudes toward the sexuality of their children and that they claim both limited knowledge of sexuality and feeling of inadequacy in providing information.
Through professional guidance, support, and education, mothers and fathers can gain a clearer understanding of their sons' and daughters' sexuality. To assist parents with their roles as sexuality educators, professionals should debunk de·bunk
tr.v. de·bunked, de·bunk·ing, de·bunks
To expose or ridicule the falseness, sham, or exaggerated claims of: debunk a supposed miracle drug. popular misconceptions about sexuality and disability, provide information on the psychosexual development psychosexual development
In Freudian psychoanalytic theory, the influence that sexual growth has on personality development from birth to adult life, with the phases of sexual maturation designated as oral, anal, phallic, latency, and genital. of children, and address strategies to promote appropriate childhood behavior through comprehensive sexuality education ...
1. M. Morgenstern, "The Psychosexual Development of the Retarded," in Human Sexuality and the Mentally Retarded, eds. E. De La Cruz de la Cruz is a common surname in the Spanish language meaning 'of The Cross.'
New York, Middle Atlantic state of the United States. It is bordered by Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and the Atlantic Ocean (E), New Jersey and Pennsylvania (S), Lakes Erie and Ontario and the Canadian province of : Bruner/Mazel, Inc., 1973), 15-28; W. S. Rowe and S. Savage, Sexuality and the Developmentally Handicapped: A Guidebook for Healthcare Professionals (Lewiston, NY: The Edwin Mellen Press, 1987).
2. M. Craft and A. Craft, Sex and the Mentally Handicapped (London: Routledge and Kegan Paul, 1978).
3. S. Chipouras et al., Who Cares? A Handbook on Sex Education and Counseling Services for Disabled People (Washington, DC: George Washington University George Washington University, at Washington, D.C.; coeducational; chartered 1821 as Columbian College (one of the first nonsectarian colleges), opened 1822, became a university in 1873, renamed 1904. , 1979).
4. A. Dupras and R. Tremblay, "Path Analysis of Parents' Conservatism toward Sex Education of Their Mentally Retarded Children," American Journal of Mental Deficiency mental deficiency
See mental retardation. , 81, no. 2: 162-66; L. Wolf and D. Zarfas, "Parents' Attitudes toward Sterilizations of Their Mentally Retarded Children," American Journal of Mental Deficiency, 87, no. 2: 122-129.
5. H. L. Fisher and M. J. Krajicek, "Sexual Development of the Moderately Retarded Child: Level of Information and Parental Attitudes," Mental Retardation, 12, no. 3: 28-30.
6. N. R. Bernstein, "Sexuality in Adolescent Retardates," in Atypical Adolescence and Sexuality, ed. M. Sugar (New York: Norton, 1990), 44-57; E. Boylan, Women and Disability (London: Zed Books, 1991); S. Hammar and K. Barnard, "The Mentally Retarded Adolescent: A Review of the Characteristics and Problems of Non-Institutionalized Adolescent Retardates," Pediatrics, 38: 845-57; M. O. Taylor, "Teaching Parents about Their Impaired Adolescent's Sexuality," American Journal of Maternal Child Nursing, 14, no. 2: 109-112.
7. N. E. S. Gardner, "Sexuality," in The Right to Grow UP: An Introduction to Adults with Developmental Disabilities, ed. J. A. Summers (Baltimore: Paul H. Brookes, 1986), 45-66.
8. W. Kempton, T. Davies, and L. Stiggall-Muccigrosso, Socialization socialization /so·cial·iza·tion/ (so?shal-i-za´shun) the process by which society integrates the individual and the individual learns to behave in socially acceptable ways.
n. and Sexuality, A Comprehensive Training Guide for Professionals Helping People with Disabilities that Hinder Learning (Peachtree City, GA: McGowan Publications, 1998).
9. W. Kempton and J. Gochros, "The Developmentally Disabled," in Helping the Sexually Oppressed op·press
tr.v. op·pressed, op·press·ing, op·press·es
1. To keep down by severe and unjust use of force or authority: a people who were oppressed by tyranny.
2. , eds. H. L. Gochros, J. S. Gochros, and J. Fischer (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, 1986), 224-37.
10. G. E. Blom, "Some Consideration about the Neglect of Sex Education in Special Education," Journal of Special Education, 5, no. 4: 359-61.
11. L. Murphy and S.D. Corte, "Sex Education for the Special Person," Special Parent/Special Child, 2, no. 2: 1-5.
12. D. Kewman et al., "Sexual Development of Children and Adolescents," in Sexual Function in People with Disability and Chronic Illness, eds. M. Sipski and C. J. Alexander (Gaithersburg, MD: Aspen Publications, 1997), 355-78.
13. B. Pendler and D. Hingsburger, "Sexuality: Dealing with Parents," Sexuality and Disability, 9, no. 2: 123-30.
14. G. Frith frith
[Alteration of firth.]
Frith woods or wooded country collectively. See also forest. , J. Mitchell, and J. Lindsey, "Sex Education: The Neglected Dimensions on the Secondary Level Individualized Plans," The Clearing House, 54, no. 5: 197-99.
RELATED ARTICLES: SIECUS' 40 MOST INFLUENTIAL SONGS FOR SEXUALITY
(listed alphabetically by artist)
In honor of our 40th Anniversary, SIECUS SIECUS Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States staff compiled lists of the 40 most influential books, songs, and television shows/movies about sexuality and related issues. These lists were not compiled using any scientific or survey methodology. Instead they represent the books, songs, shows, and movies that consistently rose to the top in our conversations with each other and with our families and friends.
* "You Shook Me"--AC/DC
* "Why Don't We Do It In the Road"--The Beatles
* "Suffragette City"--David Bowie
* "Sex Machine"--James Brown
* "Do That To Me One More Time"--Captain and Tenille
* "Light My Fire"--The Doors
* "Me and Mrs. Jones"--The Dramatics dra·mat·ics
n. (used with a sing. or pl. verb)
1. The art or practice of acting and stagecraft.
2. Dramatic or stagy behavior: Cut the dramatics and get to the point.
* "Lay Lady Lay"--Bob Dylan
* "Relax"--Frankie Goes to Hollywood
* "Sisters Are Doin' It For Themselves"--Aretha Franklin/Annie Lennox
* "Let's Get It On"--Marvin Gaye
* "Foxey Lady"--Jimi Hendrix
* "Love for Sale"--Billie Holiday
* "Society's Child"--Janis Ian
* "Me and Bobby McGee"--Janis Joplin
* "Natural Woman"--Carole King
* "Lola"--The Kinks
* "Lady Marmalade"--Patty LaBelle and the Blubells
* "She Bop"--Cyndi Lauper
* "The Pill"--Loretta Lynn
* "Like A Virgin"--Madonna
* "Paradise By The Dashboard Light"--Meatloaf
* "I Want Your Sex"--George Michael
* "You Oughta Know"--Alanis Morrisette
* "Get Your Freak On"--Missy Elliot
* "Smells Like Teen Spirit"--Nirvana
* "Just A Girl"--No Doubt
* "Emily"--Laura Nyro
* "Daughter"--Pearl Jam
* "Little Red Corvette corvette, small warship, classed between a frigate and a sloop-of-war. Corvettes usually were flush-decked and carried fewer than 28 guns. They were widely employed in escorting convoys and attacking merchant ships during the great naval wars of the late 18th and "--Prince
* "Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love"--Queen
* "I Am Woman"--Helen Reddy
* "Take A Walk On The Wild Side"--Lou Reed
* "Let's Spend The Night Together"--The Rolling Stones
* "Let's Talk About Sex"--Salt-N-Pepa
* "Unity"--Queen Latifah
* "Do You Think I'm Sexy"--Rod Stewart
* "Love To Love You Baby"--Donna Summer
* "What's Love Got To Do With It?"--Tina Turner
* "YMCA YMCA
in full Young Men's Christian Association
Nonsectarian, nonpolitical Christian lay movement that aims to develop high standards of Christian character among its members. "--The Village People
Michelle Ballan, M.S.W.
Excerpted from SIECUS Report, Volume 29, Number 3, February/March 2001.