'While we had sex in car, a man was filming us and flashing'.

Byline: Joan Burnie

Q I HAD sex in a car with a married man. The marriage is dead and he's only staying with his wife for the sake of their kids.

I am willing to wait for him, so that's not the problem. But, while we were making love, I saw someone filming us. He was exposing himself at our window.

I know some people encourage men like him to watch them, but we're not like that. I felt intimidated and frightened.

My lover says forget it but, if I report this to the police, could we be charged?

A NOT sure I'd believe everything your lover tells you about the state of his marriage, but you say that's not the problem, so I'll not waste my breath.

I'd try to find a less public place to have sex. But, should this pervert creep up on you again, do tell the police.

It's not just the illicit filming, it's the fact that he's exposing himself. That lifts it away from mere voyeurism and into something a bit more serious.

You may be able to report it without going into your nitty gritty.

PS Keep an eye on YouTube. You may find yourself starring in an amateur porn movie.