`MARS' AUTHOR'S TIPS ON DATING.Byline: Tara Solomon Knight-Ridder Tribune tribune, in ancient Rome, one of various officers. The history of the office of tribune is closely associated with the struggle of the plebs against the patrician class to achieve a more equitable position in the state. From c.508 B.C. News Wire Dating doesn't have to be awkward, painful or traumatic, says relationships guru guru (g  `r, g r` John Gray, author of the hit book ``Men Are From Mars
and Women Are From Venus'' (6 million-plus copies sold in the
United States United States, officially United States of America, republic (2005 est. pop. 295,734,000), 3,539,227 sq mi (9,166,598 sq km), North America. The United States is the world's third largest country in population and the fourth largest country in area. ). Gray's Gray's Gray's Anatomy Medtalk The prototypic textbook of anatomy, first written and published in the UK in 1858, in the US in 1859 eighth how-to is ``Mars and Venus on a
Date'' ($25; HarperCollins).
A breezy read with chapters such as ``Why Men Don't Call'' and ``Why Some Women Remain Single,'' ``Mars'' poses vast differences in how the genders should mix. We spoke to Gray, picking his sensitive-man brain for a little more detail on his tips. ``If she says, `Do I look fat?' don't say ... `Well, you certainly don't have the body of a model, but those women starve starve v. 1. To suffer or die from extreme or prolonged lack of food. 2. To deprive of food so as to cause suffering or death. themselves.'' ``She may be feeling a little insecure in·se·cure adj. 1. Lacking emotional stability; not well-adjusted. 2. Lacking self-confidence; plagued by anxiety. in about her weight. He need not answer literally - she needs a comment such as, `Oh, I'm so attracted to you' or `You are the most special woman for me.' '' ``When a woman reaches across to unlock a man's door, it ... confuses their roles.'' ``Allow him to take care of you for an evening. That type of experience will produce the most bonding.'' ``Even when things go really well on a date, a man may still not call.'' ``When a man has a wonderful date with a woman, he feels satisfied, complete - job done. He won't feel the need to call her until he has something to say. The woman's reaction is, `I can't wait to talk to him tomorrow.' Men grow in affection when they are away from the woman, whereas women grow in affection when they interact.'' ``A woman will feel most attracted to a man when he makes his compliments com·pli·ment n. 1. An expression of praise, admiration, or congratulation. 2. A formal act of civility, courtesy, or respect. 3. personal and direct, while a man will feel most attracted to a woman when her compliments are less direct and more about how she feels in response to what he has done, thought, decided or provided.'' ``For men, what will really get to his heart is when he provides something - he takes you to a restaurant and you go, `This soup is so great, this restaurant is wonderful.' That's what men really need to hear.'' |
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