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"I've got a secret!".


Think you know what a scientist looks like? How about someone in the military? What about someone with a disability? Well, each of these girls has a secret that has changed her life...and inspired her to reach beyond stereotypes by which others might judge her. Before you flip this page, think carefully about who's who Who’s Who

biographical dictionary of notable living people. [Am. Hist.: Hart, 922]

See : Fame
...and who you think YOU are.

Quick! Picture a cheerleader. Is she blonde with blue eyes Blue eyes are eyes that have blue irises (see eye color), and may also refer to:
  • IBM have a project named "BlueEyes" to develop computational devices that mimic perception.
  • Old blue eyes is also a common reference to Frank Sinatra and Sven-Göran Eriksson.
 and perfect, perky perk·y  
adj. perk·i·er, perk·i·est
1. Having a buoyant or self-confident air; briskly cheerful.

2. Jaunty; sprightly.



perk
 pom-poms (a la 4 Kirsten Dunst Kirsten[1] Caroline Dunst (born April 30, 1982) is an American actress, known for her roles in (for which she received a Golden Globe nomination), The Virgin Suicides, Marie Antoinette, and Bring It On )? You're probably not alone if that's the first image that pops into your head. While none of us like to think we're speedy stereotypers, most of us tend to have mental images of what people with certain specific interests or issues are supposed to look like. We found six girls who've pushed through stereotype barriers to prove that they don't have to conform to Verb 1. conform to - satisfy a condition or restriction; "Does this paper meet the requirements for the degree?"
fit, meet

coordinate - be co-ordinated; "These activities coordinate well"
 people's preconceived notions Noun 1. preconceived notion - an opinion formed beforehand without adequate evidence; "he did not even try to confirm his preconceptions"
parti pris, preconceived idea, preconceived opinion, preconception, prepossession
 of them. They've all had to get past some people's initial reactions to their situations and follow their hearts to happiness. In the process, they've discovered things about themselves they might never have thought possible.

As you read their personal stories, think about what stereotypes are holding YOU back. For instance, instead of thinking, "Oh, I could never play basketball because I'm not tall," come up with reasons you CAN do something. The minute you stop listening to your own self-doubt, you'll be able to open up a whole new world of possibilities for yourself.

"I'VE HAD 20 SURGERIES."

Katie Prevas, 17

I was born with epiphyseal epiphyseal /epi·phys·e·al/ (ep?i-fiz´e-al) pertaining to or of the nature of an epiphysis.

epiphyseal

emanating from or pertaining to the epiphysis.
 dysplasia dysplasia

Abnormal formation of a bodily structure or tissue, usually bone, that may occur in any part of the body. Several types are well-defined diseases in humans.
, a disease that causes your joints to overgrow o·ver·grow  
v. o·ver·grew , o·ver·grown , o·ver·grow·ing, o·ver·grows

v.tr.
1. To grow over with herbage or foliage.

2. To grow beyond or too large for.

v.intr.
 and your bones to become immobile im·mo·bile
adj.
1. Immovable; fixed.

2. Not moving; motionless.



immo·bil
. Fortunately, the disease only affects my left side--hip, knee and ankle. I've had numerous surgeries, including three on my ankle, something called a triple fusion, three knee surgeries, a full heel cord stretch and two recent operations on my toes.

The summer after fifth grade, I was also diagnosed with scoliosis Scoliosis Definition

Scoliosis is a side-to-side curvature of the spine.
Description

When viewed from the rear, the spine usually appears perfectly straight.
, which is a curvature of the spine (Med.) an abnormal curving of the spine, especially in a lateral direction.

See also: Curvature
, and had to have back surgery. The doctors placed a rod along my spine, which corrected my 42-degree curve, taking it down to a two-degree curve. I spent a full a week in the hospital and another six weeks in a back brace, but that was one of my most successful operations. You can't even notice any curve now!

At the moment, I need a full hip replacement. Yeah, that's the same surgery typically reserved for 80-year-old grandmas. My doctors and I hope it can wait until scientists develop a more advanced method of doing hip replacement surgery If I were to get the operation now, my recovery would take months, and my new hip would only be good for about 20 years. I'd need to get a new hip three or four more times during my life! So I'm pretty much holding off until my hip gives out entirely.

But it's not so bad. Sure, I can't wear really high heels high heels high npltalons hauts, hauts talons

high heels high nplhochhackige Schuhe pl 
 because there's a certain point at which my heel just can't bend properly. My right leg is a little longer than my left, because the left one had been in a cast for so long. I used to wear an orthopedic insert in my shoe to even my legs out, but then I thought, "Well, who cares if I limp?" I can't sit cross-legged. Not that the way you sit makes you cool, but everybody does it. During school assemblies, everyone sits cross-legged on the floor, and I have to do a half-leg-bent/ half-straight-out kind of thing.

Though I walk with a limp, people are cool about not making a big deal out of my disability. Before I had my surgery to fix my spine, this girl called me "scolio girl." And I thought, "Who is she?"

A lot of boys, especially my brothers, say, "Let me help you. Let me do that," and I'm like, "No, I can do it." I hate it when people don't let me do things for myself. Usually it's something silly, and I'm perfectly capable on my own. Even though I can't do some stuff I'd like to do--like ice skate, play contact sports, run without a little extra hop in my step--I never think of myself as handicapped. I just kind of go with the flow. I never expect pity. Yeah, I've been through a lot, but that's life.

My condition has made me stronger and more independent. I could spend my whole life letting people do everything for me. I could have someone put on my shoes or carry my stuff, or I could get out of gym forever! But it's so much better being able to do things myself.

Sometimes, I have to remind myself that there are things I can't do--but still plenty I can do. I've figured out what my limits are and learned not to care about what other people expect my limits to be. I surprise a lot of people, even myself sometimes. The expectations people put on you really shouldn't matter--you need to set your own goals.

Anyone who knows me knows I'm unstoppable and definitely unbreakable. And once I put my mind to something, you'd better watch out!

"I LIVED ON MY OWN AT 15."

LeNaya Crandall, 17

For the last 10 years, I've been training to become a professional opera singer. I go to Baltimore School for the Arts Baltimore School for the Arts (BSA) is a public high school located in Baltimore, Maryland and is a part of its public school system. BSFA offers concentrations in classical music, theater, dance, theater production and visual art. , one of the top high schools in the country for vocal arts. But being an opera singer isn't my secret--many people are stunned stun  
tr.v. stunned, stun·ning, stuns
1. To daze or render senseless, by or as if by a blow.

2. To overwhelm or daze with a loud noise.

3.
 to learn I lived on my own when I was 15.

When I was in sixth grade, my mom left my dad. At the time, she had run up huge bills. And even though the debts were incurred by my mom, my dad was responsible for them and had to declare bankruptcy because of it.

My dad had worked as a teacher for 30 years and was just beginning to enjoy a nice retirement. But because of our financial situation, he had to take a job with a photography company. They paid him to travel around to military bases to take family portraits. My dad had to go out of town all the time on business just so we would have enough money to pay off my mom's debts and afford a home close to my school.

I knew how hard it was on him, and I hated being alone so much. That's when my friend Daneka asked me if I wanted to move in with her. Daneka was 18 and had just gotten her first apartment. So since my dad had places to stay when he was on his business trips, he gave up our house and agreed to help me pay my share of the rent at Daneka's.

Leaving my dad at 15 was tough, and it took awhile a·while  
adv.
For a short time.

Usage Note: Awhile, an adverb, is never preceded by a preposition such as for, but the two-word form a while may be preceded by a preposition.
 for him to feel comfortable with the idea of me living on my own at such a young age. But he was happy that I was no longer staying home by myself, feeling lonely isolated from other kids. Despite the fact that my dad and I were living in separate homes, my dad was and still is very much a part of my life--and he always will be.

In the beginning, people were worried about me. The teachers at school always asked if I needed anything, if everything was OK. They were always checking up on me, but I didn't feel like a little girl who couldn't do it on her own. In a sense, their prodding was kind of annoying. But I understood that they just cared about me and wanted to make sure I was all right.

You might think our apartment was total party central but, actually, it was the exact opposite. I studied all the time. I never went out, which is surprising because we lived right downtown. But I was too busy studying, practicing and listening to music. I was on the honor roll honor roll
n.
A list of names of people worthy of honor, especially:
a. A list of students who have earned high grades during a specified period.

b. A list of people who have served in the armed forces.
, and I was performing well, singing solos in school performances. I even worked at Wet Seal Wet Seal is a young women's clothing retailer headquartered in Foothill Ranch, California. It carries moderately priced brand name and company-designed apparel and accessories. The company was founded in Newport Beach, California by Lorne Huycke in 1962 as "Lorne's.  to make money.

I lived with Daneka my entire junior year. But this past September, my best friend Ryan's mom and dad asked me if I'd like to come live with them. Even though I can't play my music as loud, it's been great living at their house.

I'm graduating from Baltimore School for the Arts this June. Next year, I hope to go to the Peabody Conservatory of Music in Baltimore and then, eventually, go to graduate school at Berkley College of Music in Boston.

Before I lived on my own, I had zero self-confidence. But taking care of myself made me realize I can accomplish anything as long as I focus hard enough. Some people think it's this huge, tremendous God-given gift that I survived on my own, but I just feel it was a necessity, something I had to do. Almost everybody in the world has some kind of problem-and that was just mine.

"I'M GOING TO THE NAVAL ACADEMY."

Sarah Price, 17

When I told my friends I had applied to the U.S. Naval Academy in Annapolis, Md., they were surprised. "But you're so girly girl·y  
adj.
Variant of girlie.
!" they said. Well, that's true--I like hair, makeup, fashion, shopping and all that kind of stuff. I'm also not the loud, bossy bossy

1. in dog conformation, used to describe overdevelopment of the shoulder muscles.

2. vernacular pet name for a cow.
 type some people might think of when they imagine a Navy officer. I'm more the quiet type.

Before I visited the Naval Academy, I was afraid I might not fit in. But during my visit, I stayed with a bunch of freshman girls who seemed a lot like, me, pretty cool and normal.

No doubt, the Naval Academy isn't for everyone. For starts, the Academy is really academically challenging, one of the top schools in the country. And it's socially challenging, too. As freshmen, or plebes ple·bes  
n.
Plural of plebs.
 as we are called, we can only go out on weekend nights and have to be back by 10 p.m. Sunday is the only day we have for ourselves. And plebes can only date other plebes.

Getting in is tough. Besides the usual college application, I filled out a personal interest survey. They ask questions like, "Would you rather grow a garden or paint a picture?" Based on our answers, they see how well we match up with successful naval officers NAVAL OFFICER. The name of an officer of the United States, whose duties are prescribed by various acts of congress.
     2. Naval officers are appointed for the term of four years, but are removable from office at pleasure. Act of May 15, 1820, Sec. 1, 3 Story, L.
, which plays a part in admissions. Kind of interesting.

And then there's a physical fitness test--how many push-ups you can do in two minutes, how fast you can run a sprint, how far you can throw a basketball from a kneeling position. The guys do chin-ups, and the girls do a flexed arm hang, which is difficult. They told me the reason they picked the flexed arm hang test is because if you fall off a building and you're clinging to the edge, that's how you would hold on!

To attend the Naval Academy, I also had to be nominated by two U.S. senators and one member of the house of representatives Member of the House of Representatives member n (US) → membre m de la Chambre des représentants . There are separate interviews, separate essays and a separate application process for each member of Congress, so it's actually like doing four college applications!

All the hard work was worth it. The best thing about going into the Navy is the honor of defending the United States--that's our job and it's the greatest thing we can do for our country. I always wanted to be part of the military, but Sept. 11 strengthened my desire to serve. And the discipline and the order really appeal to me--the military instills character. One day, I hope to be a fighter pilot. If that doesn't work out, I'd really also like to serve on an aircraft carrier, which still has that flight aspect.

A lot of my friends think it's really cool that I'm attending the Naval Academy. Other people are like, "That's crazy. These are your college years. You should have fun." My friend said to me the other day, "You're not going to be out of school until you're 27." It's true. I have to go into the Navy for at least five years after I graduate because that pays for my education. But being in the Navy is being part of something bigger.

Women have not always been treated well in the military. That's definitely something I took into consideration. Soon, I graduate from Roland Park Country School Roland Park Country School (RPCS) is an independent and private all-girls college preparatory school in Baltimore, Maryland, USA. It trains girls from kindergarten and pre-first through grade 12. It is located on Roland Avenue in the northern area of Baltimore called Roland Park. , an all-girls high school. Next year, I'll be living in a male-dominated environment. Some of the current plebes warned me that you have to watch out for the guys with big egos who think women shouldn't be there, but not everyone is like that. I'm a really independent person, so I'll deal with those challenges as they come.

I'm really excited but nervous at the same time. I think I know what to expect but, in reality, I don't have any idea what it will actually be like. Entering the Naval Academy is a new step, different from anything else I've ever done.

"I'M DOING AWARD-WINNING SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH."

Ophelia Venturelli, 17

This past March, I was named a finalist in the Intel Science Talent Search The Intel Science Talent Search (Intel STS) is a prestigious research-based science competition in the United States primarily for high school students. The Intel STS is administered by the Science Service, which began the competition in 1942 with Westinghouse; for many years, the  for doing specialized research on cataracts Cataracts Definition

A cataract is a cloudiness or opacity in the normally transparent crystalline lens of the eye. This cloudiness can cause a decrease in vision and may lead to eventual blindness.
, the world's leading cause of blindness.

For the past year, I've also been a Howard Hughes Medical School intern intern /in·tern/ (in´tern) a medical graduate serving in a hospital preparatory to being licensed to practice medicine.

in·tern or in·terne
n.
 which means, as well as going to high school, I do research 25 hours a week at the National Institute of Health in Bethesda, Md. My research focuses on how, when women go through menopause and stop getting their periods, there's a huge increase in the incidence of cataracts. I figured it definitely has something to do with a sudden drop in the hormone estrogen. I did experiments and research, and conferred with other scientists to make some real breakthroughs I hope will really change things for millions of women.

I became interested in science when I was younger and living in Colorado. I was very much into nature. I'd go out in my backyard and observe animals, check out rocks, exploring and questioning why things are the way they are. I was always very curious. That curiosity slowly evolved into my passion for molecular biology--the study of how cells operate.

I don't consider myself brilliant. I think my motivation just makes me determined to accomplish my goals. What I do definitely takes hard work and dedication. I have to be a self-directed learner, looking beyond the textbook. This fall, I'm headed to Stanford University Stanford University, at Stanford, Calif.; coeducational; chartered 1885, opened 1891 as Leland Stanford Junior Univ. (still the legal name). The original campus was designed by Frederick Law Olmsted. David Starr Jordan was its first president.  in California. I want to get an M.D. in oncology and a Ph.D. in molecular biology molecular biology, scientific study of the molecular basis of life processes, including cellular respiration, excretion, and reproduction. The term molecular biology was coined in 1938 by Warren Weaver, then director of the natural sciences program at the Rockefeller  and biochemistry.

I was really surprised when I went to Washington, D.C., for the Intel Conference to meet my fellow finalists. Everyone was so down-to-earth, so friendly, so normal. They talked about research--they're passionate about it just like I am--but they're interested in other things, too. I know everyone assumes girls who are into science must be huge geeks, but we're not. I have friends, go out and find time to do cool stuff--same as everybody. And I love riding horses. I work with disabled children in a therapeutic horseback-riding program.

People wonder why I'm so passionate about research. One of my friends said, "Ophelia, why do you like something that everyone else hates?" But science is so incredibly fascinating to me--just being able to discover something new and contribute to the world.

"MY DAD IS WORLD FAMOUS."

Rachel Ripken, 13

When Rachel was horn in Verb 1. horn in - search or inquire in a meddlesome way; "This guy is always nosing around the office"
nose, poke, pry, intrude

search, look - search or seek; "We looked all day and finally found the child in the forest"; "Look elsewhere for the perfect gift!"
 1989, her father Cal Ripken Jr. was merely a very talented baseball player who hadn't missed a game in nearly eight years. But in 1995, Ripken surpassed the immortal Lou Gehrig's record of 2,130 straight games, a mark once considered "unbreakable." Ripken's record of 2,632 consecutive games--all of them in the uniform of his hometown Baltimore Orioles-- elevated him from a famous athlete to a national icon.

Despite what some people think, I don't live in a huge mansion or have tons of servants. My house is a little bigger than most of my friends', but that's because there's a gym and the house is on a lot of land out in the country. I don't have a limo or driver! And, I don't have a personal maid--I clean my own room and do chores to earn allowance. The last rumor I heard was that my family is moving to Mexico and that Will Smith is buying our house. Not true.

When people first meet me and don't know Don't know (DK, DKed)

"Don't know the trade." A Street expression used whenever one party lacks knowledge of a trade or receives conflicting instructions from the other party.
 who I am, they treat me like anyone else. Then the minute they hear my last name, it's kind of like, "Oh..."

When I was in preschool, kids were like, "Can you get your dad to sign this?" But then, after awhile, they just kind of realized I'm only Rachel, a kid just like them. True, some people still come up to me and want to be my friend because of who my dad is. Some kids want to come over just so they can say they've been to cal Ripken's house. It's kind of frustrating frus·trate  
tr.v. frus·trat·ed, frus·trat·ing, frus·trates
1.
a. To prevent from accomplishing a purpose or fulfilling a desire; thwart:
. But I'm glad I have friends who like me for who I am and not who my dad is. I know some girls are quick to dump a friend over silly stuff, but when you're in my situation, you do appreciate your real friends a lot more.

Sometimes people judge me, and that makes it kind of hard. People rarely say, "Hi, how are you?" to me. They just know I'm Cal Ripken's daughter. Sometimes, I'll be talking to Noun 1. talking to - a lengthy rebuke; "a good lecture was my father's idea of discipline"; "the teacher gave him a talking to"
lecture, speech

rebuke, reprehension, reprimand, reproof, reproval - an act or expression of criticism and censure; "he had to
 someone and my dad will walk in, and the person will just totally interrupt me and blow me off to talk to him.

During my last dance recital A dance recital is a performance of art where dancers performed cheoregraphed maneuvers in front of a silent audience. Dance recitals are usually done in opera houses or places of performing art and people usually dress up in either dress clothes or formal clothes, depending on the , my dad walked into the auditorium, and everyone stopped looking at my performance to watch him take his seat. That can get kind of bothersome. But the funniest part? I'm not really a big fan of baseball. I don't really like it. Everyone thinks I must play softball softball, variant of baseball played with a larger ball on a smaller field. Invented (1888) in Chicago as an indoor game, it was at various times called indoor baseball, mush ball, playground ball, kitten ball, and, because it was also played by women, ladies' , but I've never gotten into softball or baseball.

And things aren't always easy for famous people like my dad. Like, if we're out to dinner at a restaurant, people will come up and ask for autographs. I mean, they're really nice about it, though, like, "I don't want to bother you or anything." Or if we're at a concert, people freak out freak out Substance abuse A verb, popularized in the US in the '60s–to experience nightmarish hallucinations including by LSD or a similar drug. See 'Bad trip.', Flashback.  and yell, "Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh. Here he comes!" I kind of understand why celebrities sometimes don't want to be bugged.

I do know that I'm really privileged in some ways. I get to go places because I travel with my dad sometimes. The best was when I was in a Coke commercial with my dad--that was fun. But the bottom line is that I'm just an ordinary girl who gets to do extraordinary things every once in a while.

"I'M A BEAUTY QUEEN."

Jacqueline Drakeford, 17

Believe it or not, I had never entered a beauty pageant in my life before I competed for Miss Teen USA Miss Teen USA is a beauty pageant run by the Miss Universe Organization for girls aged 15-19. The reigning titleholder is Hilary Cruz of Colorado.

The pageant was first held in 1983 and has been broadcast live on a succession of channels, most recently on NBC from 2003-2007.
 2001, District of Columbia District of Columbia, federal district (2000 pop. 572,059, a 5.7% decrease in population since the 1990 census), 69 sq mi (179 sq km), on the east bank of the Potomac River, coextensive with the city of Washington, D.C. (the capital of the United States). . I had a cousin who was Miss Teen USA, District of Columbia, in 1997, and she told me they needed more girls to compete. So, on a lark lark, common name for members of the large family Alaudidae, perching birds of terrestrial habits, chiefly of the Old World and best-known through the skylark, Alauda arvensis. , I entered. And I won!

My friends were pretty surprised when I told them I was entering the Miss Teen pageant. They said, "You're so not the beauty contestant type." And they are right to some extent--I'm not an exercise buff, I don't starve starve
v.
1. To suffer or die from extreme or prolonged lack of food.

2. To deprive of food so as to cause suffering or death.
 myself, and I don't spend hours primping in front of the mirror. Plus, I'm pretty serious about school.

After winning the local pageant, I took part in the national Miss Teen USA pageant, which was quite an experience. All of the contestants met at the airport in Houston, and I was like, "Wow, everybody is so pretty." I knew my strongest asset was my interview, and I know I kicked butt during that portion of the competition. I didn't make it to the finals, but I know I did my best and I wouldn't change a thing.

When I was named Miss Teen USA, District of Columbia, people at my school didn't quite know what to make of it. I was too smart to be called an airhead. I mean, how many beauty queens do you know who get a perfect score on the National Latin Exam? I did. Only a couple girls in the country manage that feat. Sometimes, I think people don't really know how to perceive me, but I hope they just see the fun, outgoing person I am.

This fall, I am attending Spelman College Spelman College: see Atlanta Univ. Center.
Spelman College

Private, historically black, women's liberal arts college in Atlanta, Ga. Its history is traced to 1881, when two Boston women began teaching 11 black women, mostly ex-slaves, in an Atlanta
 in Atlanta. I plan on majoring in engineering--they have a great program in conjunction with Georgia Tech. After that, I hope to go on to law school.

I want to head a law firm specializing in aeronautical aer·o·nau·tic   also aer·o·nau·ti·cal
adj.
Of or relating to aeronautics.



aero·nau
 law. I love space and aviation! Ever since I went to Space Camp in Florida, I've wanted to do something in the aerospace industry and being an aeronautical lawyer seems cool.
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